As we go back and look at Love Exposed’s: 30 Day Journey to Joy through the Path of Forgiveness, we can conclude that to forgive we are to start with ourselves, first. Forgiving is a process of accepting and understanding that we all are progressing in our lives at a different rate with our knowledge and perception of who we are. The way we conduct our lives is proportionate to the experience we have been through and the lessons we have chosen to learn or to be victim of. We are in a constant freewill state of mind. We are making choices regarding all of our decisions based on what we know in the moment, now. Our actions create situations that bring us peace or disturbance. Our ability to pause and not react to defensive situations is our goal in providing us long-term healthy interpersonal relationships.
We are to release judgment, coupled with compassion, to work our way through our trespasses with each other.
Letting go of resentment and retaliation releases our lives from being stuck in the muddled mess of past pain that serves no other purpose then to feed the Ego’s need to be right. By holding on to the past, we energize feelings to situations which helps keep them alive. When the image from our past causes us strife or dismay, the memory needs to be let go. Holding on to a grudge or resentment, we are continuing a discomfort in our own body and lives, not the person we cast the grievance upon. Being righteous keeps us in a pattern of proving someone else has wronged us and lays our claim to be a victim. When we are taking on the role of being a victim, we believe that life has happened to us not, through us. We can easily fall victim to the hard circumstances we experience. This attitude turns our ability to expand toward who we really are into a potential dead end. We need to learn that for every action there is a reaction and our clarity in our mind, body and spirit energizes our responses. Until we are feeling balanced in our interior and accepting ourselves fully, our ability to forgive on the outside just becomes a small band-aid to a seeping inner wound.
Happiness is not far from the center of our own personal universe. It is a direct correlation to our acceptance of our individual light and dark aspects of us. To not forgive is an action that tips the scale heavy toward the dark side of our lives, and keeps us in a tunnel that becomes more and more obscure as we harbor feelings against another. It is like coagulating an artery, it eventually will swell into the entire surface so that nothing passes. We are taking breath away when we stay in our place of darkness; each day passing is heavier and harder on our heart, a heart that yearns to be free to love without boundaries. The heart is our broadcast system; it creates a vibration that brings us a like kind frequency individual or situation to mirror our need to see truth and make changes in our lives.
Our ability to manage our emotions and allowing them to be shown, not overgrown, is healthy and necessary.
When we knowingly are harboring feelings of resentment, anger and blame we have put ourselves into a pattern of insanity. We know if we can change our minds about things, things change. We understand the power that the word creates and the vibration it emits, either positive or negative, bringing with it a sense of well-being or of dis-ease. Is this not what we would call insanity - doing the same thing and expecting different results? If we know in our heart that we are holding ourselves hostage to emotions, can we be called insane? Forgiveness is our primary step to healing our insanity on a personal, community and global level. As we have been discussing, the forgiveness must come from within, first. As the transformation seeds and opens to the outside through self love nourishment, we will begin to see communities change, countries become peaceful and our ultimate goal of obtaining planetary bliss. Forgiveness means we release all the destructive thoughts and emotions and replace them with love. Bringing to the forefront our oneness with all life, by taking to task compassionate living, we find the struggle becomes less and less and a grander more effortless life emerges.
The heart will slowly shut down to its empathy and compassion when Ego triggered reactions are involved like hate, greed, anger or resentment. Our ability to let go and allow for the changes in our lives to occur, and not resist these disturbances, is our key to finding joy in every moment. If we are in a relationship that has fostered a need for forgiveness, releasing and letting go of the memory of pain will allow truth to emerge and reveal a more loving solution. By doing this we create an environment of caring for ourselves that expands into empathy, not control. Waiting to forgive is just putting the next relationship on a long-term hold. Learn to release this pain with compassion for all life and start living to love, again.
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