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Orgasmic Disorder



Orgasmic dysfunction is the inability for an individual to reach orgasm during sexual stimulation. No, this doesn't mean that your beau has orgasmic dysfunction when he comes home after a night of beers with the boys and can't get it up.  And men-don't automatically assume your lady friend has orgasmic disorder because it's painfully obvious that she fakes it every time (that just means you have to learn some new tricks).  This disorder can happen to moth males and females, however it is much more common in females.  

The condition is referred to as primary when the female has never experienced orgasm through any means of stimulation.  It is called secondary if the women has attained orgasm in the past but is currently non orgasmic. For men, the disorder might present itself as an inability to reach orgasm during sexual intercourse or as ejaculation only after prolonged intense intercourse stimulation.  About 10-15% of women appear to suffer from primary orgasmic dysfunction. Surveys generally suggest that 33-50% of women experience orgasm infrequently and are dissatisfied.   Performance anxiety is believed to be the most common cause of orgasm issues and 90% of orgasm problems appear to be psychogenic.

How can you prevent this? Have a healthier attitude toward sex (read here for natural ways to improve your sex life)!  According to Dr. Debby Herbenick, sex therapist, "the principle of taking responsibility for one's own sexual pleasure is also vitally important.  Couples who understand that they must verbally and nonverbally guide their partner experience this problem less frequently.  It is also important to realize that one cannot force a sexual response, and the harder a women focuses on trying to have an orgasm, the more difficult it will be to attain"  Dr. Herbenick has also found treatment through education about sex can be helpful.  Herbenick says that "In the treatment of primary anorgasmia, the initial objective is to obtain an orgasm under any circumstance.  Incorporating clitoral stimulation into sexual activity may be all that is necessary for a women to achieve orgasm.  Masturbation when the partner is not present usually results in success."   Success rates in sex therapy also range from 65-85%.  Sex should be enjoyable everyone-these simple objectives about being open and healthy about intercourse may be all you need.

So, what causes this not so fun disease? Being chronically addicted to drugs or alcohol can lessen orgasmic responsiveness.  Less common but still out there, medical conditions that affect the nerve supply to the pelvis (spinal cord injury, multiple sclerosis and diabetic neuropathy), hormone disorders and chronic illnesses that affect general sexual interest and health may be factors.  Also, negative attitudes toward sex in childhood may affect a person's responsiveness, as any experiences of sexual abuse or rape.  Boredom and monotony in sexual activity may also serve as contributing factors to secondary anorgasmia.  So  spice up your sex life! Try these simple things if you are having trouble obtaining an orgasm.  If all else seems to fail, see your doctor for further guidance.