- Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job.
- Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
- A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
So, it's no big secret that the Masculine has been running the show here for a while now... and I think it is TRULY important we come into balance. Particularly regarding not lifting men up onto pedestals. YES. your man might be AMAZING at MANY things he does, and that is GREAT! Support him, show him you love him, etc.... but to make him great than your needs or yourself because of his accomplishments is bogus. And let's be real, any man worthy of all that praise would never allow you to place yourself below him, he would make sure that he was felt right there standing next to you, bowing down to you as well, in honor and support of his woman.
With the insane rise and glorification of "Celebrity Status" in this day and age, we are dangerously basing our relationship and life ideals on our visions/versions of people that we have created based on what they put out to the world... is this a true valid reflection of who they are that is worthy of notoriety and praise IF they are doing great work? No doubt! BUT! does it define who and how they are in a relationship? I'm gonna have to say NOT. The fact that the man cares about children in third world countries is not just heart touching, its COMPLETELY endearing and amazing, but does not make him the perfect specimen if you can't get him to pay any attention or show any love to your children in this country. There has to be balance, we have to be realistic, and we have to love ourselves enough first.
Give credit where it's due, and take things for what they are worth.
Read the rest of what Oprah has to say about men here;
Advice from Oprah About Men
~ Advice from Oprah about men ~
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends".
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behaviour. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...
There is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary... not supplementary.
Dating is fun... even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him – he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house.
Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other women... You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.
Happy Monday! Xo
by Ashley Davene
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