No more apologies.

I have noticed not only myself, but also other baby loss parents apologizing to others when they get filled up when talking about their losses. Why is this? We have suffered a tremendous loss and we know no one wants to think about what could happen, but what could happen, happened to us. Talking about our losses is healing; it keeps what little memories we have of our precious babies alive and is a way to honor them. Suffering in silence can be extremely isolating and unhealthy. So no more apologies, no more I am sorry our lives make you uncomfortable, but this is what we need, to be surrounded by friends and family who can put their feelings aside and just be there, to hold our hands, listen and cry with us. That in itself is an amazing gift you can give a friend or family member who has suffered the loss of a baby. Just as your living babies are a part of your life, our babies who have died are a part of ours.