Sometimes we get so caught up in the messy, dramatics that come along with the numerous break-ups of high-profile celebrities, and even that of our closest friends, that we forget the love that was once shared. We forget to honor and respect the privacy of the two people that are actually involved in the separation. We want the tea, the beef, the scoop. Play by messy play. And while sometimes it can get entertaining (yes, we are looking at you Kim Kardashian/Kris Humphries) we should not forget that sometimes the union is not a publicity stunt and two separate energies that, at one point combined, are now being torn apart. The entire situation is difficult to endure but it becomes much more difficult if children are involved.
As in the case of the split between Nick Cannon and Mariah Carey. While rumors are swirling around about abortion, divorce, gag orders and infidelity, one thing is for sure, the two are definitely separated for the time being but have decided to focus their attention, as parents, to their 3-year old twins, Roc and Roe (Moroccan and Monroe). In the upcoming days, weeks, months I suspect the waters of their love to become murkier, especially since both have lawyers willing to protect their interests. Still it is nice to see that someone, that is actually in the relationship, can take a moment to step back and look at things a little clearer.
Cannon, 33, went to Twitter to set the record straight about his impending divorce. And honestly, I wish all break-ups could have moments of clarity such as this:
I love @MariahCarey and that will never change!!!
— Nick Cannon (@NickCannon) September 3, 2014
No matter what, couples who are ending relationships or marriages, and who have children together should remember that in spite of their differences they will always have a bond that ties them, and that is the children. Life happens. People change. Creating a life with another person is a relationship that goes beyond disagreement, especially if neither party has exhibited unhealthy behaviors or attitudes around the children.
Too often kids are treated like chess pieces in separations- especially high-profile separations. It is nice and refreshing to see the bad-mouthing, belittling route be put aside for honest revelations.