Its the third day of 2013, and many people have been looking at their resolutions list, wondering where to start. Its the same scenario every year, make your resolutions then procrastinate on starting them. This year, my family and I did something a bit different. Instead of personal resolutions, we compiled ours to create family resolutions, or goals. Last year wasn't the best for us. My husband found himself laid off work, I got sick and my children found it hard to cope with the changes. We knew by the time December 31st got here, that we needed change and we needed it as a family unit. Suddenly, we were more conscious of the entire household rather than ourselves, individually. This new realization and oneness has made it easier to begin our New Years resolutions.
There are many family settings, those who live together and those who don't. Even someone who is living alone can begin the same way. Before you make resolutions, think about what would benefit your family, friends and yourself for years to come. In our home, we decided working towards financial freedom and stress-reduction were the two major items we needed to list. Whatever is going on in your life and the lives of your family members or friends, focus there. Together, list what you would like to see this year as far as change. It has been said, what you think and believe is reality, not just a dream.
As you list these goals, keep your eye on the purpose. Pour out your inner strength into the paper with each pen stroke. This affirms your desire to create the change you need to move forward. Once your list is completed, cut each goal into a strip or square, depending on how much space you used on your paper. Fold each strip and place in a jar. You can label the jar if you wish. Keeping in mind all your goals, begin immediately to bring about the changes you need. Place your jar in a safe place and live life with your goals in mind. Don't forget, opportunities may present themselves at random or you may need to create them yourself, be prepared.
Look at your jar each day and night. This helps you remember what you are striving for, unlike many resolutions that go ignored after the first week of the year or so. The saying "out of sight out of mind" is true, so keep that jar within your sight when possible. Now, the fun begins. Each time a resolution, or goal is fulfilled, take it out of the jar and place it somewhere you can find it when the year ends. Its not required that all goals be completed, so don't fret if at the end of the year you only have two or three done and ten more in your jar. Its not a race. Once Christmas is over, take down your tree ornaments and replace them with these strips of paper. This is your "thankful tree." Keep them up until New Years. At the stroke of midnight, take them down and read them with your family or friends. You'll soon realize how far you've come, giving you momentum for the next year.
We did this in my household this year, and I must tell you, although its been merely three days, we can already tell the difference working together as a family. We are focused on a common goal and the arguing has lessened immensely. We also feel more love and understanding to each other, knowing we do share the same struggles and are teaming up to beat them into submission, so to speak. Happy New Year