Everyone makes New Year's resolutions and then life happens. We want to read more. We want to learn a new language. We want to make more time to play with our kids. These sound great until we add an extracurricular for one of the kids or take on a project at work that requires overtime and then suddenly we don't have any more time to ready or learn a language or play than we did last year. We have to make time for these things that are important to us and that includes resolutions to strengthen your relationships.
Here are a few resolutions for couples:
- Make a date night once a month. I know you've all heard this before, but date nights are important! It's the time you get to be a couple instead of Mom and Dad or any of the other roles you play throughout your day.
- Communicate. This is an obvious one and you may think you are communicating to the fullest already, but resolve to take 10 minutes at the end of the day to talk. Ask your partner how their day was and tell them about yours. It can make all the difference to connect with each other this way each day.
- Go to Funkytown more often. We watched a recent episode of Parenthood where Adam and Kristina refer to their sex life as "going to Funkytown" and we've been joking about it ever since. It's funny to think of it as Funkytown, but go there!
- Treat your partner as you want them to treat you. Many would say they already do, but really think about this one. It's been said that we dish out a lot more to our spouses than anyone else because we know they will take it and not leave us. Really look at your interactions. Don't be snippy with your partner due to a bad day at work; instead, think about how you would like your partner to handle that and lead by example.
- Listen to each other. Really listen, not just nod your head when it seems appropriate. Give your partner the undivided attention they deserve.