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New Love in the New Year

Fireworks light the sky above the Constitution Square in Warsaw ,Poland.
Fireworks light the sky above the Constitution Square in Warsaw ,Poland.
AP Photo/Czarek Sokolowski

Along with the New Year comes a new start, new love and potentially a new relationship. The best thing about ending a year and starting another is the since of hopefulness and the feeling of completing one chapter and starting another. 2010 is the start of not only a year but a decade. What are you going to do different to get the relationship you want?

The first step to getting what you want is deciding what you’ve been doing wrong. For some this is the hardest thing to do because it involves taking a look in the mirror. If you are repeatedly finding yourself in the same situations can you really blame everyone else? There must be something you are doing to negate change.

The second step is to decide what you don’t want. What are the common behaviors in your past relationships that you are unwilling to deal with in your future? Tell yourself that you do have the power to ask for what you want and refuse to settle for anything less than you deserve. The fear of being alone often times is the main reason a person will settle into a relationship and try to stick it out. In 2010 face that fear head on and know you are worth the wait. Do not try to make someone that is not giving you what you want into something they are not and probably never will be. The only person you can change is yourself. The only person’s behaviors you can control is your own. Remember the person you are trying to have a relationship with is not your child. You cannot force them to do things your way. So why waste your time with someone that does not want the same things you want?

While planning for the start of this new decade, plan on falling in love. If you are currently in a relationship, plan to put that love first. Resolutions are meant to improve upon the status quo so resolve to be more spontaneous, more daring, and more direct in this New Year.

If you put your energy into a new hobby, you will start to feel better about yourself which will result in higher selfesteem that will allow you to make the best decisions for yourself in your relationships. If you know you are worth more than what your significant other is giving you, you will have the strength to move on.

Some great hobbies that will not only benefit yourself but will benefit others include, running a marathon, volunteering or going back to school.

 for more info:

Rock the Parkway

Safe Now Project

Volunteer Kansas City

Concorde Career College

 

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  • HODGES 4 years ago

    Hello Dana! I'm Wayne Hodges, the Topeka Democrat Examiner. I'm also the editor of Mass Appeal News in Kansas City. I was wondering if you'd be interested in writing for our publication. To learn more, visit www.massappealnews.com. My contact info is on the website.