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My Mama Said "Do As I Say, Not As I Do!"

"Ever since I was I little girl, my mom would tell me, 'you think you're too much! You think you're better than everyone else!' I never understood what she meant by that. But then as I got older, she would constantly call me out of my name. Yet, still said she cared about me."

These are the words of an eighteen year-old female who could not figure out her mother's behavior. So here's the thing moms, it's not just about what you do, nor what you say. It's about both! The words you speak to your daughters are important. The behavior you exhibit around them is important. They are watching your every move. And whether you want to believe it or not, they are mimicking you.

Do you remember when you were a toddler and you put on your mother's high heels, and played in her makeup? Yes, you wanted to be like mommy. Therefore, when you send your young daughter to the store to get cigarettes for you, or send her to the kitchen to prepare your drink, eventually curiosity will kick in. She will soon try that cigarette and drink. And ok, I hear you. You say it's all a part of growing up. And I agree, girls will be girls. However, they are seeking direction. And you are the one created to provide that direction, to nurture, to lead her.

Whom do you allow in your daughters' company? Please note that she is learning from everyone in the household. And yes, she is also learning from her friends. But it all starts at home, with a foundation. Protect her, love her. Your daughters are precious flowers, blooming more and more each day. You have a high amount of control over how this flower will bloom. Water it with care.

For further examples, and to see the writer elaborate on this topic, please visit: http://youtu.be/G_IYl5ELrgw