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Multiple orgasms in men: Fact or fiction?

It is one of the harder facts of life, where men are concerned, that women can have more than one orgasm, while they are confined to a single, explosive moment. Or are they? Chase, in East Lansing, MI, writes with a question about this very issue:

“My girlfriend can have multiple orgasms, but I can’t. What’s up with that?"

Well, Chase, this is one of the many scientific differences between men and women’s bodies. After you orgasm, there is a period of time known as the refractory period – which is essentially a rest period – while your body is recuperating. During a man’s refractory period, his body is taking time to reload his gun, if you catch my drift. A woman, on the other hand, has virtually no refractory period, and she’s ready to go essentially as soon as she catches her breath. Now, a man who is young and healthy may be ready to go in 20 minutes or so, but as you age, that down time becomes longer and longer—up to several hours. And for an older man, the refractory period may be indefinite, meaning if you orgasmed once, you’re not going to do it again that day, period.

Now, some men have been able to achieve a sensation similar to multiple orgasms by the use of tantric sex exercises. Essentially, they allow themselves to push just to the verge of climaxing, but then they pull back. By doing so, they can experience orgasmic like contractions without actually ejaculating – and this can extend the sensations for a longer period of time. Now, this takes a lot of self-control and a lot of practice, and it can be pretty frustrating, so some men just aren’t interested in going that route. If you are, you can do a little bit of research on the techniques on your own. However, if it’s just not for you, then you’re going to have to go the old-fashioned way and just wait out the rest period. Sorry to say, but it looks like your girlfriend is going to one-up you in this department. Good luck and have fun!