Moving too fast is one of the biggest yet less obvious reasons why people lose interest in dating. Not only does moving too fast tend to compromise one person or another’s independence or individuality too quickly, but it also clouds the very important perspective that we need. So whether it is you or the other person who is in a big hurry, or has emotions that are taking off like a rocket, take your time! Doing so allows you both to gradually make a reasonable and credible impression on each other and for you both to realize whether you two are truly a good match for each other.
How to move at a good pace:
Always keep in mind that both of you are entitled to and benefit from your own time and freedom. You need to give the other person space to miss you, to realize what he/she feels about you, to miss your voice, your touch and your scent etc. By doing this, you are also giving yourself space to gain perspective and evaluate your relationship.
Here are some one-of-a-kind tips on how to create space and pace yourself:
- Organize and commit to your own activities that you enjoy. This includes positive activities that help you feel confident, happy, and in your element—like dancing, cooking, painting, hanging out with great friends/family and a healthy mix of time to be alone with your thoughts!
- See that person only when you are ready to emotionally and mentally give your best. You want to cultivate a positive and pleasant environment that will stick in that person’s mind and have him/her associate happy and positive things with you.
- Let actions speak louder than words. If he/she says he/she wants to see you, really likes you, enjoys being with you etc., but doesn't make an effort to do so, do not attempt to push things into place. Instead, try to acknowledge that person’s independence and decision for what it is. It may be time for you to distance yourself and reevaluate the relationship.
Try out these tips and take your time in dating. Not only will you both better gauge your true feelings and maintain your individuality, but you will also help keep interest going strong.