The murder of NFL's Steve McNair by Sahel Kazemi
is proof that a cheating man's mistress can even cost
him his life. Photo: AP
Anyone who doubts that a mistress can ruin her lover’s life should read the 4 brief accounts below which recently made the news.
As we saw in Part 1 of Rielle Hunter and Other Modern Day Mistresses Who Ruined Their Lover’s Lives, there’s no end to the damage a cheating man’s mistress can do.
In part 2, we’ll look 4 more mistress who either deliberately, or unintentionally wreaked havoc in their high profile lover’s lives.
A cheating man’s mistress could end up costing him his money, his marriage, his job, his reputation, or even his life.
Sahel Kazemi
NFL player Steve McNair’s 20-year old mistress Sahel Kazemi, not only ruined his life, she took his life.
Finally realizing that McNair had no intention of divorcing his wife and marrying her, and suspecting that McNair had another mistress in addition to herself, Kazemi became distraught over mounting financial problems, and the fact that the affair not going her way.
Kazemi shot McNair 4 times as he slept in the love nest where they frequently had their rendezvous.
This mentally unstable and emotionally fragile young woman then committed suicide by turning the gun on herself.
McNair’s involvement with his young mistress cost him his life.
The younger, more immature, and more emotionally unstable a cheating man’s mistress is, the more damage she can do – as you will see in the case of Brooke Hundley in Part 1 of this article series entitled Rielle Hunter and Other Modern Day Mistresses Who Ruined Their Lover’s Lives
See You Need to Check Out his Mistress – Here’s Why and How and Brooke Hundley's Behavior Raises Questions Every Cheating Man Should Ask About His Mistress
Rachel Uchitel
Rachel Uchitel, a nightclub hostess, was the first of Tiger Woods many (alleged) mistresses to make the news. Rumors about Uchitel and Tiger Woods (leaked by one of Uchitel’s friends to the National Enquirer) began circulating shortly before Thanksgiving last year.
When Tiger’s wife Elin caught wind of numerous text messages sent by Uchitel to Tiger on Thanksgiving Day, her confrontation with Tiger culminated in the now-famous car crash, which led to the exposure of Tiger Woods’ secret sex life, and the biggest infidelity scandal of the decade.
As a result, of Tiger’s affair with Uchitel
• his pristine reputation was ruined
• the life of this intensely private world famous golfer suddenly became an open book
• he became an object of ridicule and the butt of numerous lewd and lascivious jokes
• he lost major sponsorships (Accenture, A T & T, Gatorade) worth millions of dollars
• lost hundreds of thousands of fans worldwide
• suffered embarrassment to the point where he was ashamed to show his face in public for almost 3 months
• went into a self-imposed golf exile
• underwent sex addiction treatment
• almost lost his marriage and his family – the two most important things in his life
This is a prime example of the far-reaching damage a mistress can cause in her high profile lover’s life.
Meanwhile, Uchitel, whose scheme was to use rumors to destroy Tiger’s marriage so she could have Tiger for herself, has parlayed her 15 minutes of fame into a lucrative job with ExtraTV, and a hush-money payment of at least $1,000,000 from Tiger Woods.
See What Cheating Husbands Can Learn From the Tiger Woods Infidelity Scandal
Stephanie Birkitt
Unknown to Stephanie Birkitt, David Letterman’s personal assistant, the diary in which she kept a detailed account of her affair with Letterman was found by her jealous and financially strapped ex-boyfriend, Robert Halderman, also a producer at CBS.
Halderman used the information in Birkitt’s diary to try to extort $2 million from David Letterman.
Letterman was forced to confess, on the air, that he’d been sexually involved over the years with a number of women who worked for him.
Though he seems to have since recovered, Letterman’s reputation took a serious hit when his affair with Birkitt led to stories of Letterman’s love nest on the roof of his studio, and reports of a sex tape of Letterman and a female employee, supposedly taken by a security cameras.
In addition to tarnishing Letterman’s reputation, his affair with Birkitt also ruined the life of Halderman, Birkitt’s ex-boyfriend, who was sentenced to time in jail for extortion.
See David Letterman’s Fear of Blackmail Should Be a Lesson to Cheating Husbands
YaVaughnie Wilkins
YaVaughnie Wilkins and Oracle software CEO Charles Phillips carried on a very public 8 ½ year long affair. During that time Phillips led YaVaughnie to believe that he was separated, then divorced from his wife. Apparently he lied on both counts.
When he broke off the affair to return to his wife, whom he’d never divorced, his mistress YaVaughnie commissioned huge billboards of herself and her married lover which appeared in 3 major cities across the United States.
The 3-story high billboards directed viewers to a website with extensive photo albums chronicling each year of Charles and YaVaughnie’s affair, including the home they shared, and their trips around the world.
Phillips was left with no choice, but to publicly admit that he and Wilkins had been romantically involved for all that time.
See YaVaughnie’s Billboard Revenge Shows Why Cheating Husbands Should Check Their Mistress Out
A Cheating Man Should Always Check His Mistress Out
As you can see, there’s no end to the many ways a cheating man’s mistress can ruin his life.
That’s why I recommend that a cheating man always check his mistress out.
His reputation, his career, his marriage, his health, the safety and well-being of his family, his bank account, even his life may be at stake.
Mistresses usually have ulterior motives and if they don’t get what they want, (and sometimes, even when they do) there’s usually hell to pay.
And usually, it’s the cheating man who has the most to lose.
Any man having an affair or considering having one, should request the free tip sheet entitled What a Man Should Know About His Mistress and Why, and How He Can Find Out. by e-mailing InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with Check Out Your Mistress – Xm in the subject line.
The $30 or $40 it costs a cheating man to run an online background check on his mistress, (or the woman he intends to start sleeping with) could turn out to be the best investment he will ever make.
For less than the cost of wining and dining his mistress, or renting a hotel room, he can find out important information about her which might cause him to think twice about having affair.
See Part 1 of this series entitled Rielle Hunter and Other Modern Day Mistresses Who Ruined Their Lovers Lives for stories of 3 other mistresses and their high profile lovers who recently made front page news.
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*** © copyright 2010 Ruth Houston All Rights Reserved.
Ruth Houston is a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on high profile infidelity and popular infidelity issues in the news. She is the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com and publishes the Infidelity News and Views blog. To interview Ruth Houston call 718 592-6029 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com
For more information about infidelity, mistresses, and extramarital affairs, see:
Rielle Hunter and Other Modern Day Mistresses Who Ruined Their Lover’s Lives – Part 1
What Cheating Husbands Can Learn From the Tiger Woods Infidelity Scandal
You Need to Check Out his Mistress – Here’s Why and How
Brooke Hundley's Behavior Raises Questions Every Cheating Man Should Ask About His Mistress
David Letterman’s Fear of Blackmail Should Be a Lesson to Cheating Husbands
YaVaughnie’s Billboard Revenge Shows Why Cheating Husbands Should Check Their Mistress Out
What You Need to Know About Your Husband’s Mistress and Why
What a Man Should Know About His Mistress and Why, and How He Can Find Out (free tip sheet)
Infidelity Resources to Help You Catch a Cheating Mate (contains information on how to run an online background check)
Comments
Who is wrong? Who pays for sin or she makes sins for money?You trate the misstress as guilty people of doing things men don´t want to do.Case by case we are going to know who is guilty to ruind his non important life.If they want to expend their lives with mistress they can do it.Some times mistress are beautiful an seduce very well but are not guilty of ruin men who are looking for them.
Agree with the previous comment. Blaming the mistress for ruining your marriage, well obviously if they weren't looking these evil mistresses (including ones that don't know they are one, how evil is that??) wouldn't be able to find them. Take the blame if you want to play the game or go home and be a husband like you convinced your wife or partner you wanted to be or better option, stay single and stop all the hurt before it starts.
Wives, it's not your fault unless you beat him daily if he cheats, he's the loser who doesn't know how good he's got it till you walk out the door with it.
Mitresses, be good to yourself, garbage collecting is a waste of your time, obviously you've got something worthy don't let these men keep you from a good man.
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