It’s been a long time since I havee been interested in watching the VMA’s, and I am so alright with that. First of all, I am in my forties and it is just not my cup of tea anymore. Plus, as a Christian, I can only stand so much before I can feel the Holy Spirit being grieved within me, so why even go there?
Now, when I was a kid I was all about the Grammy’s, the Music Awards and the VMA’s. I remember watching Madonna perform on MTV’s first Video Music Award show. This was back in 1984 and I was a big Madonna fan at the time. Even so, I looked through my fingers to watch her performance of “Like a Virgin.” You might ask why I was looking through my fingers—it was because I was embarrassed. She was rolling all over the floor and gyrating in a white wedding dress. "Oh my goodness,"I thought, "What is she doing?" Now clearly she was pretty much doing the same thing she was doing in her video, but this was a live performance and I had never seen the likes of that in my life.
That was high drama back then, but more than that it was an open door. It allowed standards to drop for women and gave the false pretense that sexual behavior was the key to fame, money, power, and respect. The formula still seems to be working almost 30 years later with Miley Cyrus as the latest female vocalist to degrade herself in the name of money, power, and respect. The sad part is there will be more young ladies following behind her antics.
Cyrus is all over the internet and television today as people continue to talk about her performance. “No press is bad press,” some say, and some say that the Tooth Fairy is real. Hello America . . . this is bad press. Sure it is giving her lots of attention, but it is not good attention. It’s not respectable attention, it’s just sad and desperate attention, but don’t cry for her Argentina—Cyrus accomplished what she wanted. She gave herself a a coming out party, which will tell her audience that she is willing to go to higher heights and deeper depths of shameful behavior to gain more notoriety. Yet again, absent from this notoriety is respect.
People can act like they are on top of the world, but performances like Cyrus’ and Madonna’s thirty years ago and Brittney Spears, Madonna and Christina Aguilera’s kissing shenanigans ten years ago, show a real lack of confidence and self-respect. Why are their voices not enough? Why are their performance skills not enough? Why do so many of these young female stars continue to believe that stripping down to their skivvies is going to make them something special? All it really does is make them more of the same— just another girl trying to prove herself by selling sex in her underwear. Funny, I have never seen Justin Timberlake do that.
God gave us the model of an honorable woman in the Bible (Proverbs 31, KJV). He provides females with a pattern that honors Christ as well as her husband and family. This woman’s worth is described as "far above rubies" and she is considered virtuous. There are so many examples that young women can follow today, but unfortunately many are not so great. Want to live with self-respect? Practice makes perfect. Look to the virtuous woman as an example instead of the examples so prominently displayed in our culture today. This way you can have money that does not take wings and fly away or that has been obtained will ill-gotten deeds. You can have God-given power through the Holy Spirit, and the Lord will provide you with self respect because your heart will know that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. That's money, power and self-respect—all without having to come out of your clothes. Look at how good God is!