It seems that scarcely a day passes without seeing a survey on some aspect of the middle-aged female experience. Maybe we should feel grateful, because according to one of the surveys I read, pollsters are the only people who find ladies of a certain age even slightly interesting.
This is a sad commentary, but unfortunately women are believing are believing it. Of 2,000 women who were surveyed, most agreed that 46 is the age that they become invisible to men.
The good news (according to this survey) is that by the time we get to 60 we start to feel better. That’s the good news? What about the fourteen years we are sitting around bemoaning our fate?
If we’re smart, and I know we are, we won’t allow ourselves to be drawn into this sad commentary. We will do whatever is necessary to fully appreciate the age we happen to be. I know how true that is by my own experience of aging.
When I was in my middle forties, the prospect of turning fifty was horrifying. I was already glued to my mirror focused on every flaw and imperfection I saw. I was already feeling my hormones ganging up on me in preparation for menopause. I was already wondering if men still found me attractive and if I was still a viable force in the workplace. It felt like the best part of my life was quickly disappearing and I ws helpless to do anything about it.
I was wrong. The truth was the best part of my life was still ahead of me and I had everything to do with making it a fabulous journey. Like each one of you I had to figure out what I could do to regain my confidence and well being. That journey of discovery is never ending, but it’s the only way I know to get the answers that work for you.
On my journey, which included filling up my spiritual reservoir, finding the right doctors to help with menopause and healthy aging, getting a few non-surgical procedures that took ten years off my face, I discovered my middle-age sexy and it rocks! Regaining our confidence is the best aphrodisiac ever – and it’s contagious. When you feel that inner glow and excitement - everyone around receives your high ll energy vibes.
Here’s a couple of tips I’ll pass on to you if you’re feeling less than because of our age:
■Play up your assets – now it’s time to do what feels good for you - it’s your turn
■Stop Listening to the naysayers who say life is over at 50
■Don’t hold on to relationships that no longer nurture your soul
■Change your look – go from just OK to sexy sophisticated
■Take a risk – get out of your head – say screw you to the fear
In case you need to be reminded, you are a powerful, fabulous female and even though you may have to play up different assets as you go through the decades, your middle age sexy and appreciation of life will keep you exciting and vibrant.
I am convinced that middle-aged women of today are creating another benchmark for aging and it’s not what these inane surveys are telling us.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. “All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.