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Meg Ryan and John Mellencamp split; kept 3-year relationship under wraps

TAORMINA, ITALY - JUNE 20: Meg Ryan attends the Lancia Cafe in Taormina during the Taormina Filmfest 2013 on June 20, 2013 in Taormina, Italy
Photo by Valerio Pennicino

Meg Ryan and John Mellencamp are done. On Wednesday, People shared the news that the unlikely couple split after quietly dating for more than three years. The magazine noted that the celeb duo was last spotted together in May, but kept a low profile throughout their relationship. And a source confirmed it was the distance—she lived in New York, while he lives in Indiana—that ultimately doomed the relationship.

In an interview last year with Rolling Stone, Mellencamp, 62, made it clear that he’d never want to call New York his home:

I'm too sensitive to live there," he said. "I can't see poor people. I can't see the suffering. I can't see the trash on the streets… I'm not leaving Indiana. I'm going to die here."

Ryan, however, left the bright lights of Hollywood for a “quieter” life in New York. Her longtime pal, writer Delia Ephron, told People:

Los Angeles is just about movies. New York is about so much more than that, and so is Meg."

The 52-year-old actress, known for a string of romantic comedies like “Sleepless in Seattle” and “You’ve Got Mail,” has made headlines for her high profile relationships, including her affair with her “Proof of Life” co-star Russell Crowe and her subsequent divorce from actor Dennis Quaid. But somehow her relationship with Mellencamp flew under the radar.

Not that they were totally on the down low. In 2012, ABC News speculated that Ryan could be planning to shack up with her rocker boyfriend when she put her Bel Air mansion on the market. And the actress went along for the ride with her beau as he trotted around the globe for his 2011 world tour.

But even then, Mellencamp’s rep said that the rock star and his ex-wife, former model Elaine Irwin, would continue to raise their teen sons, Hud and Speck, in Indiana. New York didn’t seem to ever be part of the negotiations.

Ryan and Mellencamp were as private as a celebrity couple could ever be. They made no red carpet appearances and rarely talked about one another in interviews. And there were certainly no Instagram selfies. So their split will likely go just as quietly.