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May December Romances

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“Robbing the cradle”…sexual relationships between individuals of a significant age difference have been documented for most of recorded history. Attitudes on this kind of romance has ranged from normal acceptance to taboo. The average “normal” age between a couples is typically 2-3 years with the female partner being younger.

Age Difference in Married Couples, 2013 US Current Population Survey[4]

Age Difference Percentage
Husband 20+ years older than wife 1.0
Husband 15-19 years older than wife 1.6
Husband 10-14 years older than wife 4.8
Husband 6-9 years older than wife 11.6
Husband 4-5 years older than wife 13.3
Husband 2-3 years older than wife 20.4
Husband and wife within 1 year 33.2
Wife 2-3 years older than husband 6.5
Wife 4-5 years older than husband 3.3
Wife 6-9 years older than husband 2.7
Wife 10-14 years older than husband 1.0
Wife 15-19 years older than husband 0.3
Wife 20+ years older than husband 0.3

Age differences focus on either the rational choice model or the analysis of demographic trends in society.

The rational choice model, people look for partners who can provide for them (bread-winners); males traditionally earn more so therefore women prefer older men.

The demographic trends are concerned with the gender ratio in the society, the marriage squeeze, and migration patterns. Cultural values are another explanation: the higher the value placed in having children, the higher the age gap will be.

Some terms used in this kind of romance or relationship are:
• Cougar- a woman who seeks sexual relations with considerably younger men. Women typically 30+ years old seeing males 8 years younger or in their twenties.
• Hypergamy- “marrying up”, typically refers to women marrying higher-status men rather than to men marrying higher-status women.
• Jailbait- a person who is younger than the legal age of consent for sexual activity. Engaging in sexual activity with someone who is under the age of consent is classified as statutory rape.
• Trophy Wife- a wife, usually young and attractive who is regarded as a status symbol for the husband.

Films featuring romances of significant age differences:
Older man/younger woman
Absolon (2003)
Albatross (2011)
Alfred Stieglitz: The Eloquent Eye (2001)
American Beauty (1999)
An American Haunting (2006)
An Education (2009)
Another Earth (2011)
Apoorva Raagangal (1975)
As Good as it Gets (1997)
Atlantic City (1980)
Autumn in New York (2000)
An Awfully Big Adventure (1995)
Baby Doll (1956)
The Ballad of Jack and Rose (2005)
Beautiful Girls (1996)
The Best Offer (2013)
Big Daddy (1999)
Bitter Moon (1992)
Blame it on Rio (1984)
Blue Salt (2011)
Bram Stoker's Dracula (1992)
Breezy (1973)
Bulworth (1998)
Breath in (2013)
The Cat's Meow (2001)
Chaplin (1992)
Charade (1963)
Circle of Two (1980)
Code 46 (2003)
Claire's Knee (1970)
Crazy Heart (2009)
The Crush (1993)
La Cucina (2007)
Daddy Long Legs (1955)
Damage (1992)
Daydream Nation (2010)
Der blaue Engel (1930)
Dr. T and the Women (2000)
The Edge (1997)
An Education (2009)
Educating Rita (1983)
Election (1999)
Elegy (2008)
The Fair Love (2010)
Fanny (1961)
The Fighting Temptations (2003)
Fish Tank (2009)
Forty Carats (1973)
Fresh Horses (1988)
Frida (2002)
Funny Face (1957)
Get Smart (2008)
Ghost World (2001)
Gigi (1958)
The Girl in the Cafe (2005)
Girl with a Pearl Earring (2003)
Girl with Green Eyes (1964)
The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo (2009)
The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo (2011)
Great Balls of Fire! (1989)
The Great Gatsby (2013)
Goldfish Memory (2003)
The Governess (1998)
Gregory's Two Girls (1999)
Guinevere (1999)
Happy Endings (2005)
Harold and Maude (1971)
Hatari! (1962)
Hindsight
Hello, Schoolgirl (2008)
High Society (1956)
Homo Faber (1991)
The Horse Whisperer (1998)
The Human Stain (2003)
Husbands and Wives (1992)
How to Marry a Millionaire (1953)
Ikiru (1952)
Inside Daisy Clover (1965)
Interview with the Vampire (1994)
Irresistible (2006)
Jane Eyre (1944)
Jane Eyre (1996)
The January Man (1989)
July Rhapsody (2001)
Kandukondain Kandukondain (2000)
Ken Park (2002)
Knickerbocker Holiday (1944)
Kurukkante Kalyanam (1982)
L.A. Story (1991)
Labyrinth (1986)
Larry Crowne (2011)
Last Chance Harvey (2008)
The Last Kiss (2006)
Last Tango in Paris (1972)
The Last Time (2006)
Léon: The Professional (1994)
Liberal Arts (2012)
Lies (1999)
Limelight (1952)
Lisa (1989)
Little Women (1994)
Live and let die (1973)
Lolita (1962)
Lolita (1997)
Lost in Translation (2003)
Love in the Afternoon (1957)
The Lover (1992)
Madrid, 1987 (2011)
Manhattan (1979)
Memoirs Of A Geisha (2005)
Me Without You (2001)
Middle of the Night (1959)
A Midsummer Night's Sex Comedy (1982)
Mighty Aphrodite (1995)
Mini's First Time (2006)
The Misfits (1961)
Miss Bala (2011)
Murphy's Romance (1985)
A Muse (2012)
My First Mister (2001)
Network (1976)
Never Say Never Again (1983)
Oldboy (2003)
The Opposite of Sex (1998)
The Oranges (2013)
Pale Rider (1985)
Palindromes (2004)
Paris, Texas (1984)
A Perfect Murder (1998)
Petulia (1968)
Pineapple Express (2008)
Poison Ivy (1992)
Pretty Baby (1978)
The Quiet American (1958)
The Quiet American (2002)
Raise the Red Lantern (1991)
Raja (2003)
Sabrina (1954)
Sabrina (1995)
Saturn 3 (1980)
Scusa ma ti chiamo amore (2008)
Scusa ma ti voglio sposare (2010)
Secretary (2001)
Sense and Sensibility (1995)
The Seven Year Itch (1955)
Shanghai Kiss (2007)
Shopgirl (2005)
Sin City (2005)
Six Days Seven Nights (1998)
Smart People (2008)
Something's Gotta Give (2003)
The Sound of Music (1965)
La Soupe aux choux (1981)
South Pacific (1958)
Stardom (2000)
Starting Out in the Evening (2007)
Stealing Beauty (1996)
Stepmom (1998)
Suburban Girl (2008)
Susan Slept Here (1954)
Sweeney Todd (2007)
The Taste of Money (2012)
Taxi Driver (1976)
Ten North Fredrick (1958)
These Girls (2005)
Thirst (2009)
This Is My Father (1998)
Times Square (1980)
Towelhead (2007)
Twinky (1969)
The Invisible Woman (2013)
Under Solen (1998)
Up Close & Personal (1996)
The Unbelievable Truth (1989)
Unknown (2011)
Venus (2006)
Whatever Works (2009)
Wild Target (2010)
Wild Things (1998)
Wish You Were Here (1987)
Wonder Boys (2000)

Older woman/younger man
40 Carats (1973)
42plus
All I Want (2002)
All Things Fair (1995)
A Tiger's Tale (1987)
Adore (2013)
Ali: Fear Eats the Soul (1974)
Alice and Martin (1998)
All About Eve (1950)
All That Heaven Allows (1955)
American Pie (1999)
Apoorva Raagangal (1975)
Arizona Dream (1993)
Being Julia (2004)
Belle maman (1998)
Big (1988)
Blank Check (1994)
Breakfast at Tiffany's (1961)
Brief Crossing (2001)
Bull Durham (1988)
Caught (1996)
Cheri (2009)
Class (1983)
Clément (2001)
Cougar Club (2007)
Crush (2001)
Diva (1981)
Don Jon (2013)
The Door in the Floor (2004)
The English Teacher (film) (2013)
Far from Heaven (2002)
Flirting with Forty (2008)
The Good Girl (2002)
Goodbye Again (1961)
The Graduate (1967)
Harold and Maude (1971)
Hello I Must Be Going (2012)
Hello, Schoolgirl (2008)
Heading South (2005)
How Stella Got Her Groove Back (1998)
I Am Love (2009)
I Could Never Be Your Woman (2007)
Impromptu (1992)
In Praise of Older Women (1978)
In the Bedroom (2001)
Ken Park (2002)
The Last Picture Show (1971)
Life as a House (2001)
The Lifeguard (2013)
Losin' It (1983)
Love and Pain and the Whole Damn Thing (1973)
The Love Letter (1999)
Lovely & Amazing (2001)
My Teacher's Wife (1999)
My Tutor (1983)
Malèna (2000)
Meeting Venus (1991)
Moment by Moment (1978)
The Mother (2003)
Mourir d'aimer (1971)
A Night in Heaven (1983)
Notes on a Scandal (2006)
"The World's Oldest Living Bridesmaid" (1990)
Only Lovers Left Alive (2013)
The Piano Teacher (2001)
Personal Effects (2009)
P.S. (2005)
The Pallbearer (1996)
Prime (2005)
Private Lessons (1981)
The Private Lives of Elizabeth and Essex (1939)
The Rebound (2009)
The Reader (2008)
Reckless (1997)
Rushmore (1998)
Sanky Panky (2007)
Savage Messiah (1972)
Shine (1996)
Something's Gotta Give (2003)
Summer of '42 (1971)
Sunset Boulevard (1950)
Tazza: The High Rollers (2006)
Tadpole (2002)
Tim (1979)
TiMER (2009)
To Die For (1995)
Unfaithful (2002)
Vision Quest (1985)
Water for Elephants (2011)
White Palace (1990)

When a dating couple has a larger-than-average age gap between them, they may have the term "May-December romance" attached to their partnership. The month of May refers to the younger partner, while the month of December refers to the older partner. Although there is no set standard for this term, most relationship experts consider 11 or more years difference between two partners a May-December romance or relationship.

In today’s society many things have become more acceptable, for instance same sex relationships and marriages and relationships of age differences. Who is to say that the age will be a reason for not working out? In any relationship there is always the chance that the couple may not last forever but then again there is the chance that a couple can last until death parts them.

Personally I prefer my men older because I have found that dating guy he tends to lack maturity. My husbands were older than me but when we divorced it wasn’t because of our age differences but because of other reasons.

My advice would be to date or marry anyone that makes you happy…age and gender does not always play a factor in a couples happiness.

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