Are you familiar with the concept of satire? In a nutshell, satire can be newspaper articles, magazine articles, or comedy skits that are created and designed to look 'real,' but in actuality, they are taking a real-life scenario and exaggerating it a bit or embellishing it a bit for humorous effect.
Real story: "Kanye West and Kim Kardashian name their daughter 'North'"
Satire: "Kanye informs his wife Kim that he plans on having more children named 'South' 'Go' and 'East'"
Okay, now that we have the satire description aside, let's highlight a young man who has become well known for creating satirical videos on his YouTube channel, but many of the men who watch treat his videos like real-life dating & relationships advice.
The young African-American comedic YouTube personality featured in these videos is named Maurice Kain Carter.
Carter is a young man who has over 700,000 subscribers to his YouTube channel, and his videos have amassed over 100 million views to date. So, you can tell he definitely has a major following of fans and supporters.
This columnist first became aware of Carter's videos back in 2010. I found many of his videos to be both entertaining and to some degree or another, truthful. One of Carter's representatives informed me that his YouTube channel is strictly for entertainment and satire purposes only, and that Carter's dating and relationship advice should not be perceived as genuine, helpful advice. Carter's videos are supposed to be lighthearted commentary on the state of today's dating scene between single men and single women, particularly in the African-American community.
Last year, Carter ran into some trouble when he was accused by Dante Nero, a popular podcast host from New York City, of stealing some comedy material from the late, great stand up comic, Patrice O'Neal (Nero was one of O'Neal's best friends before he passed away).
Recently, Carter released two videos basically saying that a man cannot be truthful with women about his desire for short-term non-monogamous 'casual' sex. Carter expressed in his videos that you have to engage in lengthy pleasantries and small talk with women and/or you have to give women the impression that you want to be their next boyfriend in order to get them in bed.
Watch them for yourself:
To reiterate, these videos are representative of entertainment and satire.
But for those men who perceive these videos as "real" advice, let me ask you a few questions . . .
If you went to the grocery store to purchase some meat ... and when you got home, you realized from eating the meat that it was spoiled, what would be your reaction? Let's say you talk to the meat department manager, and they tell you, "Well, we knew the meat was spoiled ... but we were scared if we told our customers, they would not buy the meat from us. We need the money!" What would be your reaction?
What if you met a woman, and you asked her, "Do you have a history of any sexually transmitted diseases?" She replies, "No ... I have never had an STD in my life." Later, you two have sex. Weeks or months later, you find out that you are now HIV-Positive. In your next conversation with your lover, you ask her, "I thought you said you never had an STD?!?" to which she replies, "I knew even before we had sex that I had HIV, but I was scared to tell you because I thought you would then decide not to have sex with me." What would be your reaction?
You get my point?
The fear of being rejected and not getting what you want is never a valid reason to lie to women or mislead women about your true romantic and/or sexual desires, interests, and intentions.
If your interest is in engaging in short-term and/or non-monogamous sex with a woman ... you need to let her know that. Do not lie and give women the impression that you want them to be your next long-term monogamous "girlfriend."
If your interest is in engaging in a long-term romantic relationship with a woman .... you need to let her know that. Do not lie and give women the impression that you are totally content with being their purely platonic "friend."
Both of these examples would be representative of what is referred to as 'Mode Three' Behavior in the book, Mode One: Let the Women Know What You're REALLY Thinking.
I realize it may be challenging for some men to tell women the truth (see my related article), but in the long-run, you will find it has more benefits than lying. Peace of mind, for one.
Would you want a highly promiscuous bisexual man giving your mother, sister, and/or daughter the misleading impression that he was a monogamy-minded heterosexual man? No. You would not.
Again, just because you are afraid of having a woman fail to reciprocate your romantic and/or sexual desires, interests and intentions does not justify you wanting to be dishonest or misleading with women.
And also ... men, watch yourself when viewing videos such as the ones produced by Maurice Kain Carter. Taking advice from him for dating and relationships is like watching political satirist Stephen Cobert on The Cobert Report and allowing him to help you decide who you should vote for in the next Presidential election.
Stick to the real ... not the satirical.
Alan Roger Currie is the author of a number of books, including Mode One: Let the Women Know What You're REALLY Thinking and Oooooh . . . Say it Again: Mastering the Fine Art of Verbal Seduction and Aural Sex. Currie's latest eBook, The Possibility of Sex: How Naive and Lustful Men are Manipulated by Women Regularly is also available exclusively on Amazon.com in their Kindle format. You can also download a copy of Currie's eBook on your iPhone, Android Smartphone, or other Smartphone. Starting with Monday, August 4, 2014, you might be eligible to download a FREE copy of the audiobook version of 'Mode One' on Audible.com. CLICK HERE for more details.
Upfront & Straightforward with Alan Roger Currie, the most-listened to talk radio podcast program in the category of "Romance" and "Self-Help for Relationships" on the BlogTalkRadio Internet Radio Network, can be heard LIVE every Thursday evening at 10:00pm EST / 7:00pm PST. Visit http://www.blogtalkradio.com/modeone and http://modeone.net for more details
Currie offers email, telephone, and Skype consultations to both men and women; Visit http://modeone.net/products to purchase a consultation.