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Married; not feeling the love or support

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There are so many issues that can plague a marriage; lack of finances, unemployment, physical or emotional abuse and so on and so forth. It’s also known that many of these issues can very often end in divorce. Also adding to the stress of these issues, as if these didn’t challenge your marriage enough, could be all the struggles that come with a blended family. Managing you the kids can be a trying stressor for any marriage.

Obviously in all these areas, a key element, you need to support each other. As parents, as a healthy married couple, you are your kid’s first line of defense so you can’t afford to be the weakest link. Lack of support in any decision making can weaken even the strongest of marriages. Not supporting each other, especially where the kids are concerned, will have a negative impact on the household.

Sure, taking care of teens can be a major ordeal, even harder at times for a stepparent. Disciplining stepchildren has to have the support of the biological parent in order to work. It’s not just about the kids, if your marriage is one sided in this area your marriage will suffer. Here are a few traits of a supportive wife from www.askmen.com; she’s fiercely loyal; a supportive partner is on your side no matter what, ready to go to war with you and take on whatever obstacle life presents, as long as they’re healthy and legal. She is a fighter and a faithful sidekick, through thick and thin.

Hand in hand with her capacity to challenge you, her inspiration factor is essential to sustain and develop your love. When all else fails, this will bail you out of bad times and relationship stagnation. Physical attraction is what gets us at first, but over time, you need a woman who can make you think and reflect on a deeper level. A powerful indicator of whether she can be that great women by your side, is her zeal to sacrifice for you and the relationship.

What has she put aside to advance the two of you as a couple and a team? The basic point of my message here is to partner with a woman who demonstrates affection on a regular basis with abandon and ease; key point men, be grateful and show it. Men need love too and we become better when we have a woman in our life who loves us at the end of a hard day or when we feel lousy.

There is no elegant way to phrase it; life can suck real bad. When it does, there is no remedy like the tender touch of a good woman. Strike that. A great woman. And yes husbands, these traits should go both ways. Whatever the struggle are; money, jobs and most definitely disciplining and caring for your children backing each other up is vital to a healthy marriage.

Whether you’re an unsupportive wife or husband, trust the fact that you should change, and fast. One area not mentioned that many a long-term marriage goes through is emotional distancing, why create or speed up that stressor. The emotionally distant spouse can be a source of significant unhappiness, stress, lack of support and conflict in marriages and families. More often, we hear of wives make this complaint about their husbands' behaviors, but husbands can feel this way too.

The pain of loneliness, insecurity, mistrust, anger or lack of support caused by the emotionally distant spouse can intensify over the years of marriage and can lead to separation or even divorce. Unfortunately, in many marriages there is a failure to honestly discuss and address this weakness in a marriage. The essence of a healthy marital friendship is the ability to give oneself to one's spouse with deeds, support, thoughts and emotions.

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