Written Communication – Irrespective of whether it is a verbal or a written communication, it needs to be precise and lucid. As a rule thumb, avoid using jargon or slang just for the sake of adding weight to your message, which cannot be understood by the partner. Short sentences pack more power as they are easier to read and understand, but they should be correct, clear, consistent, and concrete.
Maintain a certain degree of subtlety in your approach. Simply using words from the dictionary doesn’t mean that you have a good vocabulary. You cannot expect people to run through a dictionary every time they come across some new word. Rather, if you provide enough choices and variety in your language that would make the reading and listening experience of your of your spouse more comfortable and enjoyable.
Without this, writing might be a big turnoff to most. Everyone knows that not all couples enjoy writing to each other as a form of communication, which is why this one was referred to first. But, some do think that is a nice romantic way to communicate.
Verbal Communication – This form of communication is the most widely used…and abused. While communicating verbally, you need to speak out your point succinctly and clearly, paying careful attention to your pitch. Modulate your tone within the context of the topic.
How many times have you noticed your spouse’s tone before even considered any of his words? Ensure that you do not ramble or recite your points, as it may seem very unimpressive, which might also project you as unintelligent. You should be well aware and thorough about the subject you are speaking on and should be able to justify your points with logic, facts and figures.
Make sure that you are speaking effortlessly, preferably at a slow pace and not just uttering what you have memorized. Your tone will make a difference here so watch not only what you say, but also how you say it. If you sound condescending you just might be tuned out. At that point the communicating, if you can still call it that, is over.
Listening Skills – This is where things get tricky for some, the ability to listen. Good communicators know the importance of listening. They will tell you that listening is more important than even speaking. But you would never that if you have ever witnessed a heated public argument.
While in a conversation, if you do not listen carefully to what others are speaking, it will appear as if you are simply trying to make your point of view only and trying to dominate your spouse or others, which might project you as very arrogant. This at times may prove to be your pitfall.
Resist distractions and encourage the speaker, which may be hard to do if they are screaming at you, right. A good listener has the power to create a good response from their spouse, so try to maximize your listening skills and pay regard to what they say. It is well known that listening is the hardest part of communication, yet it is the most vital part.
That is the reason people scream, because they feel that they are not being listened to. Improving your communication skills is an art that comes with regular practice. As proven, practice makes a man perfect, start with a noble intention and keep practicing dedicatedly till you reach perfection.
No matter how intelligent you are, your communication skill is the only attribute that will help you to convince your spouse as well as others that you’re vested in the conversation. So, make wise use of your words skillfully and make sure to establish your point politely. As yourself this question. If it were in your wedding vows to love and cherish, but never listen to you, would they have gone through with it?
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