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Marriage in your Early Twenties

"Sometimes you have to stand alone to prove that you can still stand."
- Anonymous
"Sometimes you have to stand alone to prove that you can still stand." - Anonymous
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Twentysomethings Tying the Knot

Is it me, or have early twenties marriages significantly increased in recent years? Every time I turn around, I’m receiving the “I’m getting married!” phone call from friends and family members, or noticing a facebook status update, or recent name change accompanied with obscene amounts of photos, a website, video footage, pod cast, and sappy profession of undying love. And yes, I’m happy for them, but a tiny piece of my being rebels against this seemingly Catholic tradition under which I was raised and screams out, “Just live in sin! It is less legally binding than paperwork solidifying your ‘eternal’ love.” Plus, it’s a lot cheaper to break up than it is to get divorced.


The thing is, twentysomething marriages have been on the rise since the early 90’s, which some argue is a result in the increase of conservatism among youth, consequences of premarital sex, and knowledge of sexually transmitted diseases. However, this could also be due to the stigma that accompanies the “depressed single.” According to an article on Jezebel.com, a scholarly site dedicated to fashion, sex, and celebrities, “getting married early saves you from a depressing life of singlehood.” Why? Because early marriage saves you from societal pressure to marry and have babies while also eliminating the time in which you may accrue unattractive baggage.


Why is it, that if you’re single, every co-worker, married friend’s husband, and the neighbor’s great aunt has to say, “I know this really great guy you should meet!” Like being single is a horrible disease in which you bask in until you finally break through and land yourself some dude to pal around with. He may be incredibly boring, smell of garlic, and more preoccupied with March Madness than you, but at least you aren’t wretchedly single, right? Wrong. I know plenty of single women that lead fun, active, and self fulfilling lives, despite the stereotype that single women often fight. They aren’t looking for a man, they are looking to live and enjoy each day. If the right guy comes along, cool! But settling for the male that came along before they turned 30 isn’t an option.


"You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is truly central and crucial in a life is the relationship to the self. Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, you are the only one you will never lose."
- Jo Courdert


Fun things to do for Charleston’s single or not-so-single, independent gal:
Pole Dance Aerobics

Charleston’s Fashion Week
Female Motorcycle Clubs for the Biker Chick
Cake Decorating Classes
Scrapbooking Classes
Gourmet Cooking Classes
Cooking Light Super Club
Charleston Theatre Audition information for 2010-2011
Various Athletic Teams

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    Andrea Estrada 3 years ago

    I put your article as a link to mine, "A Converstion About a Special Marriage with Robert van Bloemendaal" Keep up the good work.