The weather is getting warmer, the rain is coming to an end, the sun is always shining, and it seems that we have found ourselves in wedding season. Why does it feel like as we enter the mid-year point everyone is suddenly getting engaged? Ok maybe that is just everyone I know. Or maybe you one of those soon to be engaged people, and all you thing about is getting that ring! You have gone out on many dates, some good, some horrible. And after all the countless hours of dating you feel you have found the one. The one whom you are ready to spend the rest of your life with. Then you start to wonder? Is this the right person? Is this the one I see myself living with for the rest of my life? Am I completely sure? Well let’ s do a simple list to make sure you are really ready for jump to the next step, and can truly handle moving from dating to married.
Have you asked yourself?
Does this person add to my life?
Love does not come into your life to complete you, loving another person should help in making you better? So ask yourself, what is this person adding, and am I a better person because of that? The answer will assure you if you are making he right decision.
Do I trust this person?
Nothing is more important than trusting the person you plan on spending the rest of your life with. Make sure you have absolute trust. You never second their answers, never feel the need to check on them, and know that just as much as your trust them; they trust you in the same way.
Is there open communication?
I always stress the importance of strong, open, communication in a relationship. Make sure the lines of communication open and free from clutter.
Do we have the same values about marriage and family?
What you value about marriage, and family is a conversation that should be had before you both say, “I do”. The picture of a marriage and family can be different for everyone, make sure you are both on the same page about what a family and marriage will look like.
Am I truly ready to turn go from a “me” to “we”?
Many people will often wonder if they are ready to transform from their own individual life to a life that is shared. Make sure you are ready to share everything that has made you who you are. Your other half will love you even more for that.