When it comes to marriage communication no subject is off limits. Whether it is employment, business, automobile, cooking dinner and even taking care of the kids, all of it is important to the person communicating the message and should be just as important to the receiver. There have been times when our twins have been sick with a cough or even a fever and the message that I am always sending them is when you are sick it is best that you stay at home and not expose others to whatever it is that you have.
Incidentally very few people think like this. My husband and I have always agreed with that philosophy so that it limits the symptoms of what they have. What is your style of communicating in marriage when and/or if you have sick kids? Who does the care fall on? What is the message you want to communicate to your child(ren)?
When our twins get sick which is pretty rare, I already know that I am not going to get a lot done. Major cuddle time and mommy time goes into affect. No one in their mind can make a sick child feel better than mom. I often enjoy the extra cuddle time because it gives me a chance to slow down and I do usually end up paying for it later with some longer work days.
Is your communication style one of panic? Now the kids have a few symptoms are you rushing to the doctor or do you wait it out for at least 24 or 48 to see what it is. Believe me there are those parents that will go to the doctor at the sign of a fever. Not an exceptionally high fever, but nevertheless a fever. I recall my husband and I discussing early in our marriage, if something were to happen with either of our parents, it does not do any good to call the other one at work right then and get them all upset because there is not anything we could do at that very moment since the parents do not live locally.
Have you ever thought about that? Makes sense to me. It is easier to contact the parent once home and see what the situation is and if there is any action that you need to take or will you just be waiting for an update based the action they will be taking.
What is the message you are sending to your children when they are sick? With our twins, we have explained to them what is happening with their bodies when they have a fever, get a cold or even a sore throat. We do not panic but deal with it. My husband is well aware of how little time I have once they are sick and helps out even more with meals and care when they are sick. Does he feel left out because they only want to hang on to mom when they are sick? I doubt it and he takes advantage of being able to get some work done that he might not have otherwise been able to get done so that when they are well, he can have Daddy and kids time.
If your kids are sick and you need recommendations on ways to comfort them and keep the lines of communication open:
1) Go to Whole Foods in Cherry Creek if you are seeking natural remedies.
2) We are also fans of Vitamin Cottage in Denver.
3) Another thing you might want to try is make your own Chicken Noodle Soup and everyone have soup and crackers for dinner. You might be surprised what your kids think.