Marriage is arguably the oldest institution known by man. In spite of its rich history, little emphasis has been placed on marriage blueprints. To those conversant with motor vehicles, for example, it is clear and understandable that every car has a manual. Those are used whether the cars are in good condition or needed some repairs. So also does marriage need a more solid manual.
From the case of O.J. Simpson's wife murder to that of Oscar Pistorius's (girl friend murder) indictment, the lesson remains the same: Marriage institution is in grave danger.
The following marriage codes can be of help.
1) You are married to the one you professed undying love for so by all means, keep or revive the initial love you had. Know that no matter the commitment to a job or boss, friends, relatives, mother or father, your mate comes first.
2) Keep the communication line open. This does not only help both mates to express there love for each other but also their disappointments. It creates room for the mates to grease their relationship. In addition, "good communication is one of the essential tools for effective stress management," according to http://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/102010203?q=The+Role+of+Good+Communication&p=par. It provides the most enabling setting for honest and confidential discussions.
3) Spend quality time together. Catch fun. Practically kiss, hug and treat your mate as the queen she is or the king he is. Such closeness will solidify the union.
4) Determine to settle misunderstandings or disagreements before the end of the day it first occurred. Doing this will help the offended mate to forgive quickly and for the marriage boat to keep sailing smoothly.
5) Discuss financial matters before hand. No mate should be known for impromptu expenditures. The world wallows in a condition called, scarcity of resources. So, the relationship between what a family has in terms of financial resources and what they need as regards to materials and food is a difficult one. Michael Perry, addressed it as "the tension between unlimited wants and limited resources." http://michaelperry1.wordpress.com/2011/11/23/the-tension-between-unlimited-wants-limited-resources/.
6) Treat marriage as sacred (Mathew 19:6)
7) Talk to each other respectfully. Be kind and compassionate.
8) Show humility and do not take offence easily.
9) Express thanks for the things done by your mate.
10) Know when to talk and when to keep silent.
11) If a handicap, for instance illness or death happens, endure it.
12) Make all possible sacrifices to stay committed to the marriage vow..
13) Remember that marriage is a permanent bond. The only scriptural grounds for divorce is fornication and adultery (Mathew 19:9).