With the glitzing and gorging of the holidays practically behind us, we face the end of one year and the beginning of another. We bid farewell to the good times as well as the adversities of 2013 in order to make room for the hopes and promises of 2014. Each year brings with it both joy and stress, trials and triumphs. Instead of creating resolutions that produce guilt or failure, why not simply change your perspective for the coming year?
Let go of the old and embrace the new. What tiresome tasks, draining commitments, or negative behavior can you stop in order to create time and energy for the activities that bring you happiness? Think in terms of replacement. Step down from a volunteer position that leaves you burned out and replace that time with an activity you have always wanted to try like taking a yoga class, scheduling time for your favorite hobby, joining a support group, or serving at a soup kitchen with your children.
Grow through it rather than just go through it. Many single parents find themselves facing challenging circumstances they would rather escape from, but these may be the very situations where personal growth occurs the most. The challenge during these times is to grow through circumstances by embracing the positive lessons in them rather than just go through them with a survival mentality. Who knows that a trying circumstance might be the very catalyst to create a positive turning point in life?
Create positive affirmations about the direction you want to move into this year. Think about your top priorities, and ask yourself what truly matters to you. Keep it simple, and create three do-able affirmations to focus on, such as:
- This year, I will set aside personal time every week to get recharged.
- This year, I will trade in a negative attitude for an outlook of gratitude.
- This year, I will be firm with my boundaries, yet also look for ways to have fun with my children.
Since single parenting requires carrying countless responsibilities, there is no need to bring anything extra into the New Year. What can you leave behind to make 2014 your best year? Usher in the New Year with a change of perspective to make way for the best that is yet to come!