These days, people are desperate to pay their bills – or least they’re eager to find a venture to help them pay off their debts. Conversely, perhaps you’ve already made it into the millionaire club, and you’d like to meet someone who is just as successful that isn’t simply after your money. If you’ve got $5 million in the bank, for example, it’s wonderful to know that the new person you’re dating with their own $7 million in the bank is with you because they want to be, not because you represent a ticket out of dire straights to them.
Therefore, how can you go about verifying the fact that a person really is the wealthy person they claim to be on the millionaire dating website? Well, some websites correctly perform their due diligence with background checks and similar investigations that help screen out undesirables – and that’s a really great thing. They should be willing to shell out the big bucks to ensure they’ve got quality participants.
However, I’ve seen enough episodes of Dateline NBC and 48 Hours to know that not every human being is whom he or she claims they are – and even if they are rich, it doesn’t mean they’re not crazy or violent.
In that vein, here are a few tips to help you find out how to run a free background investigation:
#1 – Use advanced Google searching tips
Many average Google users don’t realize they can place a search term within quotes to get an exact match of the results they seek. This is especially useful if the person you’re inquiring about has a less than common name. If your new potential beau’s name is “Calvin Hansen” – for instance – go ahead and search for his name just like that, quotes and all. Remember to include middle names, middle initials and all other variations of the name, including nicknames. Also, put the person’s hometown or previous cities where they resided outside of the quotes. That way, you could possibly uncover public records like divorce decrees, judgments, arrest records or all sorts of things that tell you more about them and their financial status.
#2 – Listen more than you speak
If you do agree to meet the person for a date, start off only with dates in public locations. That will give you time to discern who they really are without disclosing private information about yourself too early, like where you live.
Over the course of time, a person will tell you everything you need to know about them – including any inaccuracies that arise. People who tell lies will inevitably contradict themselves or spout off some untruth that will help you catch them in the lie, revealing their true intentions without you needing to say a word. But you’ve got to pay attention and pick up on the red flags, not babble on about yourself.
#3 – Don’t lend them money, and see how they react
One common thread among all those people who’ve been scammed by others who’ve pretended to be millionaires is that the other person eventually asks them for money. Usually it’s a good ruse: They claim that their own money is tied up for some reason, and there’s always some urgent reason they need your cash.
The best way to get through this dilemma is to either flat out say “no” to a loan, or to dig for proof of the need. This is how I discovered a woman at the gas station was trying to scam customers out of money. She approached me with this long tale about running out of gas and leaving her debit card at home. I told her I’d go inside and pay for her gas – I just needed to know what pump number her car was parked in front of. That’s when she started stammering, saying that she thought I could just give her cash instead. Busted!
Likewise, if a person who claims to be rich asks you for money to satisfy a bill or new project funding – tell them you’ll pay the debtor directly, if you’re not sure they are really in need and want to be generous. If not, tell them no. Either way, their reaction should tell you everything you need to know about their real motives. If they’re only after your money and realize they can’t easily get anything out of you, no doubt they’ll move on soon – or hopefully you’ll move on first, to someone who loves you for you.