Valentine’s Day, like other holidays can be filled with pressure, stress, and anticipation. We want our loved ones to show us they care, we search for a valentine, if only for a day, and we gauge our desirability on the action of others. My advice for Valentine’s Day this year, is to give the V day a break and instead celebrate love daily and sexualize each and every day. Nothing is sexier than lingerie on any given Sunday, chocolates, just because, and an out of nowhere afternoon delight. Valentine’s Day like Thanksgiving, or the 4th of July, limits our displays of love, thankfulness or patriotism, to one day out of the year instead of many. Talk about stuck in a rut. We all love surprises, especially sexy ones. Valentine’s Day takes away the anticipation that can make sex so much fun.
Instead of Valentine’s Day, plan an entire sex weekend for two. Get creative, and playful, romantic and frisky. Like other holiday’s, plan thoughtfully in advance. Each partner should submit several strips of paper to a hat or bowl, with fantasies and sexy ideas written down. Take turns picking them and reading each idea out loud. Colorado has so many options for quick getaways. Hot springs (Mt. Princeton, Indian Springs, Ouray, and Glenwood Springs etc.) are a wonderful way to steam things up and connect with each other and nature. If money is an issue, forget the spa experience, and retreat to your hotel room, if only down the street, for couple’s massages, toss on some candy panties, squirt open the chocolate body paint and indulge in some role play games. Whatever you plan, remember to set aside time each month of the year to explore new and sexy ways to remain connected with your partner. Valentine’s day is great for grade school, but real relationships deserve to be celebrated, cherished and rekindled all year long.