In the world of love and marriage and a society of couples in the workforce, Malcolm O. Munro, a long time career fitness coach and management development consultant, based in the Washington, DC area, did an interesting study to determine what keeps people loyal to each other and to their employers.
Munro, who has consulted numerous major corporations Malcolm O. Munro, the Career Fitness Coach,oftentimes looks at relationships. For example, when the economy was causing so much stress with couples, he advised on short term and long term plans after identifying the problem. Solving Your Money Affecting Relationship Problem
When he let me know about his new study – the reasons that couples leave relationships and work I was surprised when he asked: “Did you know that people leave relationships AND jobs for similar reasons?” To share this with you, I asked Munro to write this guest column:.
“People leave jobs and relationships for the same reasons” by Malcolm O. Munro
I'm always amazed at how managers treat employees. It made me wonder if retention issues at work were the same as retention issues in relationships. To find the answer, I sent out a nation-wide survey asking for reasons why people left committed relationships and why they left an employer.
In both studies, the major reasons people moved on was the feeling of being abandoned or wronged by either the partner or the organization. In personal relationships a need wasn’t met, but the need appeared to be less tangible, and more related to a feeling of the other partner not living up to a commitment.
In the employment relationship, the reasons for moving on centered on a lack of commitment toward the individual’s career intentions and from a difficult work environment.
In relationships, people seem to build a tolerance to less than-optional situations but then it does appear that one major event causes them to leave. With men, it seems as though a sustained pattern of dissatisfaction leads them to seek out a new relationship. With females, it was one major event that caused them to leave and most women were more tolerant of other issues. The other issues focused on a more unhealthy relationship environment that was dissatisfying but not intolerable. Perhaps they had more patience.
People are “wired” for relationships.
People are emotional beings and the workplace is often an extension of that emotional context. Where people feel cheated, ignored, or disrespected, their tendency is to move from that relationship.
To read the full study and Munro’s thoughts, please go to www.ImQuittingYou.com.
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