If you are on Facebook , YouTube, Twitter, Instagram, or any other site that allows the post of videos you have probably seen those surprise proposal videos. Usually they come with a celebrity guest or a mob dancing in the oddest places.
The last to hit the airways is the couple that get engaged at Home Depot, or as some of my friends call it ‘Homo Depot’ which my sarcastic side says it’s only fitting that two Gay men would get engaged between big pieces of wood… I’ll hold for the laughter or groan… May I continue?
If you haven’t seen it take the time now to click on the video link and watch it. It really is a testament to the change of the times. I won’t give too much away now so you can enjoy it. But can you notice what’s missing and I’ll answer that after you watch.
So now that you’ve watched the video I’ll ask again, “Can you tell what was missing?”… I’ll give you a minute to think about it… Okay, nothing, in my opinion, was missing. It was a trick question. Okay, I stand corrected there are a couple of things.
There is no hate or screaming protesters. There is no one being bashed or chased. There is only love, but not just from the couple, but from everyone that participated. The older and the younger, they all danced, best as they could, to celebrate this couple.
And in the end when the proposer takes his soon to be fiancé down from the stairs and they all run up behind him to see if he’ll answer yes or no and the music stops and the ring is out and we are all crying and we see how much he loves him.
Ah, that’s my favorite moment, that’s what I’m waiting for. No, not to be loved that strong and passionate because I’m pretty sure that I have been loved that way. I feel it in kisses and hugs, in words and actions.
But after my last break up, which has been quite a while, my heart, I don’t think, remembers how to love that strong and with that much passion. But then again, am I the best judge of that, we tend to be very critical of ourselves.
I know that I can love; my family, friends, that special someone, my teddy bear Max, tacos, Boston cream pie. I have passion; my shows, my writing, my activism, volunteering. I love and have passion for my clothes.
But why is it so hard to translate that to another person and how long before the curse from the last relationship ends, even a broken mirror last only 7 years, how long for a broken heart? Or is it more like a lay away plan?
I write and I giggle because this sounds like a session with my therapist about a year after my break up and it seems that not all the bandages have come off. There are visible scars and still some bruising, but I want to love that strong.
The way I see it, only when I remember what it means to love that way will I recognize it when it comes back to me. Congratulations to the couple and any other couple about to walk down the aisle. You have graduated to that level of love, you have taken your heart out of lay away, and your curse has been lifted.
Could you share your secret?