Driving by Bel Air, California, she told him he was precious. And he told her she was elegant. The interaction in this love relation involves an exchange of complements that expand the expression of love in a trajectory from the inner-self to the outer-self, or vise versa, given the meaning associated with the words.
Precious is an adjective that could mean cherished, dear, and loved from within. And treasured, valuable, costly, prized, expensive, beloved, or important are also meanings that are associated to the outside of the precious person. Mixed feelings may arise in response to the word precious.
If the meaning attributed, and emphasis, is on the outer-self, then self-confidence would become involved to then affect the feelings that would be produced by the word precious. If, on the other hand, the meaning attributed, and emphasis, would be on the inner-self, then perhaps self-esteem would affect the feelings produced by the word “precious”.
Whereas self-confidence can depend on the outside parameters, self-esteem is ones opinion about the value of one’s own inner core worth- regardless of the outside parameters.
Elegant is an adjective that means graceful, neat, chic, stylish, well designed or well dressed. Similar to the inner outer static dichotomy about the word precious, or in a dynamic trajectory, graceful has an internal attribute and neat, or chic, has an external attribute. Here the word seems to be loaded with valance. It has attraction, one that may draw towards the inside when graceful is the meaning and draws to the outside when chic is the meaning.
The inside attribute, given to the meaning “graceful”, connects to the inner core worth, self-esteem. And the outside attribute, given to the meaning “stylish” or “chic”, connects to the outside of the person controlling self-confidence.
What can be learned about relationships given these described above? The mixed feelings produced by these words may be because self-confidence and self-esteem are not compatible in their meaning and feelings that they produce.
Relational conflicts may arise, not because the individuals in the relationship are incompatible; but because, words that are exchanged may be attributable to internal and external own personal factors. Those words may give rise to meanings and feelings that may be incompatible inside and outside the pramaters of each individual.