Johnstown Relationships: Love is the greatest gift
I was recently re-reading the book Life Lessons by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler. I have always been a fan of Kubler-Ross; her reflection on life has given me and my client’s great comfort over the years. She has a chapter called The Lesson of Love. Which is very appropriate for the upcoming Valentine’s Day Holiday.
She writes that love “is the only truly real and lasting experience of life. Ultimately it is the only thing we can really give.” As I read on, she mentions that sometimes love is elusive but once we obtain love it is powerful and grand. The hunt for that grand love is not unreachable. You simply have to be open to the experiences our world provides. Love is supposed to be the purest emotion and feeling we have and share with others. For many, love has conditions and those conditions are often hard to live up to.
I have written this before, and will no doubt repeat it again, love should not have conditions! If love is to be a real and lasting experience, then are we not being cheated by placing conditions, terms and restrictions on how and who we love? How can that kind of love be fulfilling? We can also ask, is that feeling of love real? If we base our love, care, and affection for another person with `I will love you if you cook and clean for me’, you must ask is this true and real love. Doing things for a person we love does not rely on conditions. We act or behave certain ways for people we love, because we love them. Not getting anything in return is not a condition of how much I love someone. Reciprocity in a relationship means sometimes I give a little and sometimes I get a little.
Nobody should make demands in the name of love! Love is to be pure, honest, and abiding. Showing someone you love them with gifts, affection, or attention is nice, but not always necessary. Take a look at the successful relationships around you. They have success because they love unconditionally and without prejudice. Love is meant to be earth-shattering, sky-falling and star-studded. Kissing and holding someone you truly love should give you goose-bumps and make you forget about everything and everyone else.
Valentine’s Day is known to be the day of Lovers. People get engaged, married, go on special romantic dates, buy gifts and cards for their special someone. My thinking is why does one day a year hold people to showing their recognition of love? Think about, does loving someone only happen once a year? If your answer is no, then find a way to make everyday special for that person who holds the key to your heart. Love is the greatest gift human beings have. Do not squander it! Share your feelings openly and in return, love will happen not just once a year, but everyday of every year.
HAPPY VALENTINE”S DAY TO ALL THE LOVERS IN THE WORLD!