We face many different experiences in our lifetime and one of them that most of us will face is the loss of a loved one. You go into a relationship with good intentions but no matter how much you try, sometimes it just doesn't work out. So what can you do to help ease the loss?
One of the most important things to do is to realize is that you can get over it and you will get over it but no matter what you do, it's going to hurt. Dealing with loss is not easy, but you can get through it and move on with your life.
Remembering that things happen for a reason, even if you don't know the reason now, there is always a reason. You know the saying "One door closes and another better one opens", it is always true.
Keep in mind that when you experience loss that it means something better is on the horizon for you and your life. It doesn't help lessen the pain but it will help you to remember that you are growing and your life is improving.
Here are a few things you can do to help yourself make it through a painful loss.
1) Join a group. There are plenty of support groups out there. Groups for single mothers, parents without partners, even groups in church's that can help you by just going to a meeting and being able to express your grief about the situation.
2) Seek counseling. If you do not feel comfortable in a group setting, then seek professional counseling.
3) Get on a dating website. Although I highly do not recommend this because of various reasons, at least it gets you thinking about love again and makes you focus on what you truly want.
4) Go to a bookstore or coffee shop. Or go to a cafe' or restaurant where you know men go and have lunch by yourself. Do NOT take a book to read, be open and approachable.
5) DON'T sit in the house getting more and more depressed, get out there, go grocery shopping, take a walk around the mall, get out to the park. Go places where you have to say hello to people. Do NOT hibernate your life away. We are social people and socialization is needed for our well being.
Most of all, don't rush into another relationship, take the time to do some good soul searching. Find out who you are and what you really want and then go out and get it.
Till next time,
Jennifer
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