Friendships can be lost for a variety of reasons; distance, betrayal or growing apart. But there is no loss as permanent or as hurtful as when a friend passes away.
When a friend dies it rips apart a vital support system leaving behind insufficient memories and pointless inside jokes. It is unfair, unjust, and downright cruel to be the only one left who remembers that one time when that one thing happened.
What do you do?
You keep moving/busy. Let the rage/fear/agony/any other emotion you are feeling run its course through your body. If you want to cry; cry. If you want to run; run. Let yourself feel, because putting up a roadblock against the agony won’t help you or the other people around you who are hurting.
Remember. Tell other people about that one time when that one thing happened. Listen to their stories. Remember who your friend was, who your friend would have been and hold onto it. Never stop remembering.
Hurt. There is no timeline for “getting over it.” You don’t “get over” losing someone who is important to you. The idea is to be allowed the grieving process in order to get to a place where you can grasp what has happened, even though you’ll never be able to understand why.
Love. Never stop fiercely loving those around you, because love is the only thing we leave behind that’s really worth anything.
What you should not do:
Don't close yourself off. Avoiding other people who care about you is only going to make your loss more unbearable. It may be hard to talk about it, but it's important to remember they're going through the same type of pain.
Don't rely on drugs or alcohol to get you through it. They may seem to be the only way to dull the pain, but in the long run they make everything worse.
"I think about how much I miss him, and start to feel sorry for myself.....but then I think about all the people who never got the chance to meet him, and I start to feel sorry for them." -Unknown
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