By Dr. Joe Rubino
A characteristic that powerful people possess is the ability to empower others to greatness. This is the ability to see things in others that they do not yet clearly see in themselves... while creating the space for them to recognize it and rise to the challenge. It's about seeing others as great without any need on your part that they live up to your expectations.
In contrast, we typically listen from the perspective of our opinions and judgments. Listening this way filters out what is actually said and impacts what we are able to hear. How we see other people—as powerful or ineffective, intelligent or slow whited, insightful or with little to contribute —has everything to do with what we get out of our conversations with them. When we hold others as great, that's what our listening for them empowers them to become. It builds their self-esteem. Getting the most out of others - our spouses, families, friends, co-workers, employees etc. - is made more likely if we consider them to have the potential to be greater than they see themselves.
We call this the Pygmalion effect. Through it, we get from others those positive qualities we expect to see in them. As we listen to others in such a way that we champion them to be all that they can be, we support them to see possibilities in themselves that they did not previously see. Listening to others routinely in this way will enable them to gain in confidence and strength until they see themselves as powerful and capable of producing whatever effect they desire.
The key to empowering others to their greatness is to never offer the kind of help that makes them small, weak or dependent. It is about championing people by already considering them as great. This means listening for the possibility others are, for what is missing that if put into place would have them step into their power. It's about listening for what others need and want - not what you want. What you want is usually of little value when compared with what they are ready to receive.
Take the interpretation that you have the gift to empower everyone who comes into your life. And, likewise everyone has the same gift to contribute to you. Interact with others with the expectation that they have come to receive a gift from you. Your job is simply to discover what that gift is that you have to contribute to them. By listening for how you can contribute your gift to others, they will have been able to contribute the greatest gift possible to you - the gift of you becoming the person you have chosen to become on purpose.
Dr. Joe Rubino, CEO of Http://www.CenterForPersonalReinvention.com, is acknowledged as one of the world’s foremost experts on the topic of elevating self-esteem. He is a life-changing personal development and success coach on how to restore self-esteem, achieve business success, maximize joy and fulfillment in life and productivity. He is known for his groundbreaking work in personal and leadership development, building effective teams, enhancing listening and communication skills, life and business coaching and optimal life planning.
His 12 best-selling books and audio programs are available in 23 languages and in 58 countries and include:
• The Self-Esteem Book: The Ultimate Guide to Boost the Most Underrated Ingredient for Success and Happiness in Life.
• The Success Code, Books I & II
• 31 Ways to Champion Children to Develop High Self-Esteem
His highly acclaimed Legends of Light Trilogy consisting of:
• The Magic Lantern: A Fable about Leadership, Excellence, and Personal Empowerment
• The Legend of the Light-Bearers: A Fable about Personal Reinvention and Global Transformation
• The Seven Blessings: A Fable about the Secrets to Living Your Best Life
are currently under development as feature films.
Learn more about his life-changing work in championing people to restore their self-esteem and achieve greater success and happiness in life at www.successhappinessformula.com and receive FREE the insightful video program “How to Raise Your Happiness and Success in Life” and a 1 year subscription to “The Success Achievers’ Club”…a $129 Value!
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