When life brings hardships, heartache, pain, grief, embarrassment, shame, or problems with another person, it can be a burden that is hard to carry. In the the previous article, it was discussed how giving everything to God can help relieve the anxiety and depression, and make each day easier to face.
To go along with this, though, there are steps that we can take on our own that are important, as well. Is there a grudge that's been being carried around? If so, it is time to let it go. Grudges do nothing but inhibit relationships--not just with the person it is held against, but also with others. Resentment is the same way. Embarrassment and shame are negative emotions against ourselves and, as such, are unhealthy. We need to let them go. We are all human. By being human, we make mistakes. The quicker we realize this, and let go of the embarrassment and shame, the better off we'll be. Grief and heartache take time. We must give ourselves the necessary time to deal with the loss, both physically and emotionally. It is not an easy thing, but time will bring healing, if we are open and allow it to occur. Dwelling on the pain makes the healing process take longer.
When we walk with God, He guides our steps. He helps us to be forgiving--with ourselves and with others; to overcome unhealthy emotions and behaviors. He helps us have better relationships. He helps us to find our purpose. He holds us in the palm of His hand, protecting us. With God all things are possible. He has our best intentions in mind and has good things in store for us. By being aware of His presence, and changing the way we treat others and ourselves, helps to bring us closer to His love and His guidance.
Psalm 147 says: "How good to celebrate our God in song; how sweet to give fitting praise. The Lord rebuilds Jerusalem, gathers the dispersed of Israel, Heals the brokenhearted, binds up their wounds, Numbers all the stars, calls each of them by name. Great is our Lord, vast in power, with wisdom beyond measure. The Lord sustains the poor, but casts the wicked to the ground," (The New American Bible, 1991, Wichita, KS: Devore & Sons, Inc.).
Let go of the negative and increase the positive. If an apology is long overdue, it is never too late to make up for it. Likewise, a heartfelt thank you is always appreciated. Forgive and forget what needs to be forgotten. Spend time in prayer and praise to our Lord God. Take time to laugh, smile, and share some joy with others. It makes for time well-spent.