One of the most common problems we hear nowadays about childhood trauma is growing up inside negative or toxic family units. The concept of toxic has many meanings for different people and we all think we know what is good, what is the best option but most of all, we are quick to point out what is wrong in everyone else’s life.
The early years in someone’s life are very important in their development, having the responsibility to be part of that process is something we cannot take lightly. I believe that if someone feels he or she is not capable of that difficult task and is not willing to do it with unconditional love, they should just not do it at all. Finding someone more suitable for the task is better than trying to be an adult figure that after all, will negatively affect the future of a child.
A lot of people consider a negative environment for children if they grow up, for example, inside same gender parent’s households. My opinion is that in cases like this, sometimes it is not the environment what can ruin someone’s early years but the way people perceive it, judge it and implant those concepts in these children.
A child that goes to school and is bullied because his parents are gay might recent his parents and his family environment just because he sees it as the cause of his problems with other people. His parents might provide everything he needs and might love him and give him everything they possibly can, but this child might grow up with psychological issues due to the way his family was perceived by others.
A lot of times, the judging eye of closed minded people can cause much more damage to our future generations than growing up with pure careless parents. We have to remember that our children are like empty glasses ready to be filled with what we teach them; if we teach them equality and they are able to see it in their communities, they will grow up not only with a more open mind but mentally healthier.
This is not a plea for same gender relationship acceptance; I respect your right to think different. My plea is for our children, for their opportunity to live in a world were different ways of thinking are honored, where stigmas no longer exist and where our children can grow up happier and a little bit more sensitive to other humans.