Repeat after me, "I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me". Feel better? Lighter? Maybe not?! But you do recognize the truth in this statement. In a world where we invest a lot in one person for the reward of a long-term, perhaps life time partnership it's hard when it's over and the dream or the seemingly path of lifelonged-ness ends.
For sure, many a counselor, or psychic can count on their living fielding the endless bargaining of those who were sure it would be so "right" and endure. But as many things in life, nothing is permanent. Well not most things.
You will have won the love lotto if you found your mate, forever bonded, who seems to endure the good, and the bad times never to waver from the quest of being together. But for the rest of us, that's a crap shoot. The unraveling of a relationship can come as a surprise or a long-ignored realization of time. But end they do. Often. Without fanfare. Sometimes without notice.
It's so common that to write about it seems almost trite. Break-ups are probably more common than birth, death or sex. However, that doesn't make them less painful, surprising, jarring, name your description.
And what do we do? We reel. We convulse. We regress into our wounded, child-like selves at the horror that is rejection. But we have at our immediate disposal one very simple, but not very easy, thing to do. Let go!
Yes, let go!!!!!!! Because here's the thing. You don't want to be with anyone who doesn't want to be with you. You know it. Your friend knows it. And though mileage on what to do about a break-up may vary, this mileage does not. Let's repeat it. You don't want to be with someone who does not want to be with you.
There is nary a person who does not agree. Because it is true. So if you are the latest strewn, rejected carcass lying in the street of failed romances, you can find some odd comfort in this idea. And what does that mean you do next? Let go! It's all going to be okay. It always is.
Because men, and women, are like buses, when one leaves another comes along. Whether you believe so or not. You can't hold the bus at a bus stop to make sure you have a ride anymore than you can hold a person in a relationship. They'll go if it's time. Let go. Another will come. Because what is the mantra?
You don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you.