Today, we have a question from Stan, in Indianapolis, IN, who writes:
“I’m embarrassed to get naked in front of my girl, I feel self-conscious about my body, and especially my package. I am afraid I won't live up to her expectations - what should I do?”
Body image issues are a pretty common thing among men and women alike, and they can actually derail a potential sexual experience. Everybody has little imperfections and insecurities about their body, but if you allow yourself to get hung up on them, you’re probably going to find that sex is not as enjoyable for you as it could be.
If there is a particular aspect of your body that you are unhappy about, take small steps to remedy it. Got love handles? Add a little bit of cardio to your daily routine, and by starting to work on yourself, you just might find that you have a little more love for yourself than you thought. But the best thing you can do is to work on self-acceptance; rather than being upset that you don’t have 6-pack abs, focus on how defined your arms are, or the fact that you have great hair. If you can come to love yourself, you’re gonna feel more confident in your body, and that’ll translate into more confidence between the sheets as well. And rest assured, Stan - if things are already getting hot and heavy, she’s probably decided to sleep with you anyhow, so taking off your clothes and revealing what you have under the hood probably isn’t going to change her mind - no doubt she likes you just the way you are, and she may be having the same image problem you are dealing with. So just try to relax and have fun. Good luck!