“We may not be able to tune our inner critics out entirely, but we don’t have to let them run the show.”
Here is the BIG question. Were inner critics always once outer critics? Where do these inner critics come from anyway?
In “Don’t Bring It to Work” you can learn to pinpoint those outer critics that then became the inner voices that now stay in your head saying stuff like “I KNEW you would never be able to do it.”
How do we banish these voices once and for all?
Arianna Huffington is exactly right. We don’t have to let them run the show.
Think of it this way. Who is it at work who makes you hold back, too meek to speak? Who is it you can see yourself wanting to give a quick kick to the groin? (Come on we all have these thoughts from time to time.)
Okay, go somewhere quiet. Now, pick a person and pick a situation. Now take a minute, two at the most and play the scene in your head where you say everything to this person you wish you could say if it was safe enough to really tell the truth.
You may have to go back and re-do this scene several times. How will you know you have tamed the inner critic?
There is an intelligence of the gut we need to become more familiar with. There is that place somewhere near your navel that will relax, not be so tied in “KNOTS” from the “NOTS” once you tell this annoying inner critic to back off.
Practice makes perfect and soon that critic will fade away.