What is the underlying cause of conflict? Not easy to answer. However, all conflict that is big, awful and noisy has to do with underlying stress.
Even genie’s who fly out of bottles when you rub them cannot dissolve the tension of disputes and annoyances.
There was this guy who rubbed the magic bottle and the genie said “at your service sir.”
The man thought deeply and finally said “I hate to fly. Airports are awful stress filled places and going through security is a mess. I love Hawaii so I would like you to build a highway from my home in San Francisco to Hawaii.”
The genie was quiet and finally said “Sorry, cannot do; too complicated and would take too much of my time from fulfilling other people’s wishes.”
At that moment the man’s cell phone rang. It was his wife complaining that he was coming home from work late again. She was irritable and he finally hung up on her. He turned to the genie and said with a sigh “Okay, no route to Hawaii. I would like you to give me the secret of how to stop the constant conflict with my wife.”
The genie thought for a moment and said “Did you want two lane or four lane highways?”
Relationships are more complicated than flying to the moon or driving to Hawaii.
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