Does this scenario sound familiar?
You meet a great guy, exchange witty, flirty banter via phone or email, and you finally make plans to meet. You are excited. You look forward to getting to know him. He promises to contact you after you provide the appropriate phone number. Your anticipation and excitement slowly dissipates when he fails to call.
Did he blow you off?
Not sure, you contact him, he apologizes, and additional witty, flirty banter ensues. You feel better. You again agree to meet for drinks or coffee. You are again excited. You look forward to meeting him. He promises to call and fails to do so. You double-check that your phone is still working. Or, maybe you gave him the wrong number? Or maybe he jotted it down incorrectly? Or, worse, did he blow you off . . . again?
You immediately think he is just too busy to make the call. After all, he did say he was stressed out at work and had a gazillion things going on or to do. Didn't he also say that he spends a lot of time with his son? You know, the Super Teen of academics and sports that has a lot of functions or games to attend? Or, maybe he is just overwhelmed with [insert excuse of the day]? He showed a lot of promise, so you speculate, you obsess, you rationalize, you justify.
Hmmm . . . what to do?
Ask yourself: would you put up with this type of behavior if you were actually dating this guy? Hopefully, the answer is certainly not.
If that is the case, why would you put up with it while you are trying to get to know him - - presumably when he is trying to make a good impression? Since when is unreliability a best effort when trying to get to know someone?
Everyone deserves a second chance, right?
There are perfectly nice guys out there who simply need to work on their social skills and manners. Weigh the options and decide what you will or will not tolerate.
On the other hand, making two separate promises in close proximity to each other, and failing to keep either promise to make a simple phone call? In a situation such as this, you are not technically dating the guy.
Be that as it may, not following through does not bode well for future encounters if you would date him and subsequently really have to depend on him for something. Besides, it is thoughtless and rude. Frankly, it is bad manners - - especially if you are a 30- or 40-something (or older) adult - - and there is no excuse for bad manners or rudeness in any situation (social or otherwise).
Laurie's Logic: Everyone is busy, has commitments, things to do, places to go, people to see, etc. However, if a guy really wants to see you, he will make the time to do so. By the same token, if he really wants to talk to you, he will make the time to keep his word and call as promised. Remember, there are too many guys out there that will make the effort because you are worth it.