I recently had the opportunity to sit down with Kim Rosenberg, founder and CEO of Mixology, where I asked her the following question about single life in New York:
What advice would you give to a homosexual male in the New York community that has a hard time finding someone to settle down with?
Dating in New York, like many other large metropolitan cities is where we see so many people constantly looking for the next best thing – the hotter, more successful, better in bed guy. If you continue to look for the best next thing, you will constantly be chasing someone/something and will likely look back at 65, still single.
There are plenty of organizations and groups that professional, well connected men are involved in – many of them volunteer with these groups as singles and are looking for a long term partner. Find places and people that have the same goals or passions as yourself. If you’re a mature single adult, you likely won’t meet your life partner in a bar.
Try joining new organizations, groups, frequenting different lounges or bars. Getting stuck in the same routine will most likely result in you seeing the same type of people. You may also think about hiring a matchmaker if you are having a hard time finding someone to settle down with. My clients love the fact that I do all the work for them, vet their matches, etc. Busy people don’t have a ton of time to volunteer and join new groups, so it’s an easy fit. The key to finding someone to settle down with is to push yourself outside of your comfort zone and "routine."
Joshua Pompey is an online dating expert. For more on Joshua Pompey, visit the getreadldates home page or getrealdates online dating profile service for men.