Yes, I was. My name is Sarah and for nearly two decades, I was a serial dater. Why you ask? And, why admit to that?
Dating many people is healthy. Very healthy in fact. When you date many people you know when you've met "the one" because you've been exposed to so many other people. If I had a child I would absolutely encourage her or him to date around and not settle down too early. I know many people in their late 20's who've been dating the same person for 4, 5 and even 6 years. I know people in their early 20's who've been dating the same person since high school and have settled down.
If I had settled down with the first guy I ever "fell in love with" I would be a divorced single mother without a college degree. If I had settled down with the first guy I dated for a long time in my 20's I would be a divorced single mother with a college degree, working at a dead-end job I didn't love and I would never had met the person who encouraged me to chase my dreams.
If I had stayed with that one person who hurt me several times, because I loved him, I would have endured years of infidelity ending in painful heartbreak and needing months of therapy.
My years of serial dating taught me what I wanted and taught me what I had to offer.
What did I want and what did I have to offer, you ask? Stay tuned to my next article...I will let you, my reader, be a voyeur into my world of serial dating, and what it taught me. And how those years brought me to my soulmate here in Kansas City.