Class will discuss the K & W of the K-W-L Model at the beginning of the lesson: What do you KNOW and what do you WANT TO KNOW about the four Anger Styles and the more positive fifth alternative? At the end of the lesson, they will close with the L discussion: What have you LEARNED about the four Anger Styles and the more positive fifth alternative?
- Teaching Poster for Classroom Use: K-W-L Model
Section 2: Introductory discussion on the four Anger Styles and the more positive fifth alternative.
A. Ask the “K” question of the K-W-L MODEL.
1. Teacher Says or Asks: This lesson is on learning about the four Anger Styles and the more positive fifth alternative.
For the K of the K-W-L Model, what do you KNOW about the four Anger Styles?
Students Respond:
a. Acting Out – Acting Out is the type of anger style where someone has some kind of extreme lashing out at another person or as a result of some particular incident or event. Without taking time to think, the person immediately reacts to their anger trigger(s) in some kind of extreme fashion. This person can be said to be ‘out of control’.
b. Displaced Anger - If someone’s anger style is Displaced Anger, this is a classic example of the VICTIM-VICTIMIZER Cycle. This is where you are mad at one person, but you take your anger out on a possibly weaker or easier target who just happens to pass by.
c. Ignored Anger- If someone’s anger style is Ignored Anger, this is demonstrated by a person holding his or her anger inside or pretending that he or she is not mad. This internal anger often builds up and up until the person suddenly explodes in the form of physical or loud verbal attacks, or they implode in the form of severe depression or anxiety.
d. Avoidance - The anger style known as Avoidance is where a person avoids meeting the eyes or communicating with the person who provoked his or her feelings of anger. He or she might even avoid being in the presence of that person altogether. This anger style includes giving that person what is known as the ‘Silent Treatment’.
2. Teacher Says or Asks: Habits can be changed. When your anger is triggered, you are going to react in some way. That is your Anger Style. Your Anger Style is simply your habit. In other words, your Anger Style of either Acting out, Displaced Anger, Ignored Anger, or Avoidance has been your habitual practice in reacting to your Anger Trigger or Triggers. Since you can’t change other people, the only thing you CAN change is your reaction to what makes you feel angry.
For the K of the K-W-L Model, what do you KNOW about how to change your habitual Anger Style to something that might serve you better or work better for you?
Students Respond: (Accept Reasonable Answers.)
3. Teacher Says or Asks: Other than the four Anger Styles of Acting Out, Displaced Anger, Ignored Anger, or Avoidance, there is a fifth option or choice.
For the K of the K-W-L Model, what do you KNOW about our fifth choice or option? In other words, what do you KNOW about the best way to deal with your feelings of anger?
Students Respond:
a. The fifth choice or option is Self-Mentoring in some way.
b. Take deep, calming breaths.
c. Count to 10 or 100.
d. Use SPAM method or the Stairstep Thinking Process of contemplating something that brings you pleasure to distract you from your anger feelings.
e. Get help from a trusted adult, a friend, or a trained counselor.
f. Give yourself a pep talk and use calming self-talk.
g. Take a long walk, run, or get involved in some other very physical activity such as a team sport.
h. Work it out.
i. Punch a pillow.
j. Use ‘I Messages’ and talk it out with the person who provoked your anger.
k. Walk away and take a time-out. Take the time you need to cool off.
l. Journal about it.
m. Find a way to relax like taking a nap, hot shower, or hot bath, or try listening to soothing music. Meditate. Spend time in nature. Play with a pet. Read a good book or watch a movie, etc.
n. Laugh! Look for the humor in life or that situation and try to have fun.
B. Ask the “W” question of the K-W-L MODEL.
1. Teacher Says or Asks: For the W of the K-W-L Model, what else do you WANT TO KNOW about the four Anger Styles?
Students Respond: (Accept Reasonable Answers.)
2. Teacher Says or Asks: For the W of the K-W-L Model, what else do you WANT TO KNOW about how to change your habitual Anger Style to something that might serve you better or work better for you?
Students Respond: (Accept Reasonable Answers.)
3. Teacher Says or Asks: For the W of the K-W-L Model, what else do you WANT TO KNOW about our fifth choice or option? In other words, what else do you WANT TO KNOW about the best way to deal with your feelings of anger?
Students Respond: (Accept Reasonable Answers.)
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Return to the following lesson plan:
Middle School lesson plan: Pranks, Idle Threats, and Promises
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Please note: After completing sections 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, and 8, you are now ready for Section 9.
Section 9: Wrap-Up Discussion on the four Anger Styles and the more positive fifth alternative
A. Ask the “L” question of the K-W-L MODEL.
1. Teacher Says or Asks: For the L of the K-W-L Model, what have you LEARNED about the four Anger Styles?
Students Respond:
a. Acting Out – Acting Out is the type of anger style where someone has some kind of extreme lashing out at another person or as a result of some particular incident or event. Without taking time to think, the person immediately reacts to their anger trigger(s) in some kind of extreme fashion. This person can be said to be ‘out of control’.
b. Displaced Anger - If someone’s anger style is Displaced Anger, this is a classic example of the VICTIM-VICTIMIZER Cycle. This is where you are mad at one person, but you take your anger out on a possibly weaker or easier target who just happens to pass by.
c. Ignored Anger- If someone’s anger style is Ignored Anger, this is demonstrated by a person holding his or her anger inside or pretending that he or she is not mad. This internal anger often builds up and up until the person suddenly explodes in the form of physical or loud verbal attacks, or they implode in the form of severe depression or anxiety.
d. Avoidance - The anger style known as Avoidance is where a person avoids meeting the eyes or communicating with the person who provoked his or her feelings of anger. He or she might even avoid being in the presence of that person altogether. This anger style includes giving that person what is known as the ‘Silent Treatment’.
2. Teacher Says or Asks: For the L of the K-W-L Model, what have you LEARNED about how to change your habitual Anger Style to something that might serve you better or work better for you?
Students Respond: (Accept Reasonable Answers.)
3. Teacher Says or Asks: For the L of the K-W-L Model, what have you LEARNED about our fifth choice? In other words, what have you LEARNED about the best way to deal with your feelings of anger?
Students Respond:
a. The fifth choice or option is Self-Mentoring in some way.
b. Take deep, calming breaths.
c. Count to 10 or 100.
d. Use SPAM method or the Stairstep Thinking Process of contemplating something that brings you pleasure to distract you from your anger feelings.
e. Get help from a trusted adult, a friend, or a trained counselor.
f. Give yourself a pep talk and use calming self-talk.
g. Take a long walk, run, or get involved in some other very physical activity such as a team sport.
h. Work it out.
i. Punch a pillow.
j. Use ‘I Messages’ and talk it out with the person who provoked your anger.
k. Walk away and take a time-out. Take the time you need to cool off.
l. Journal about it.
m. Find a way to relax like taking a nap, hot shower, or hot bath, or try listening to soothing music. Meditate. Spend time in nature. Play with a pet. Read a good book or watch a movie, etc.
n. Laugh! Look for the humor in life or that situation and try to have fun.
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Return to the following lesson plan:
Middle School lesson plan: Pranks, Idle Threats, and Promises
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