Was your Father there for you when you were growing up?
Are you a Father?
Are you there for your children?
When you talk to men who grew up without their Father depending on who you talk to and how they grew up will determine what the person remembers about their Fathers absence.
Some people grew up with their Mothers taking on both roles and taking care of the house. Some people grew up with a Step Dad who in some way assumed the responsibility without being asked. In cases like this these individual felt very fortunate. But for those who had no Father and no Father figure as a man this can make life a little more difficult.
As a result of not having a role model to use as an example some men use this excuse not to be present for the children they have. When it comes to being a Father there is no written rules that says what you must do to be a good dad. If you ask children what makes their dad special, in some cases they will say, because he spends time with me. For some it's the simple things that mean the most. It's not always about the money like some people may think. Being present can make a lasting impression to a child.
If you are a Father and you have not been present in your child's life now is the time to make a change. If you think that because your children are older and it's too late, it's never too late. Making the initial contact is the first step. What's important is that you attempt to make the connection.
Read the poem: Hope in a man's eyes
Unfortunately, you can't turn back the hands of time. What can be done, using the time that's left and making the best of the rest of your life as well as your child's life. In the long run you will be glad you did.