Today’s modern Vancouver woman has taken on a lot more responsibility than ever before & is now learning how to balance a career, motherhood, household upkeep & maintaining a loving relationship! How is it possible to evenly divide the attention to each one of these daily occurrences?
Do not forget about YOU ~ Your happiness is priority #1 to keeping everything flowing
- Take time to exercise which will keep your self-worth intact. Many women let themselves go as they do not schedule time for their health & end up feeling unattractive from neglecting their bodies & emotional well being.
- Nurture your friendships even if it means getting 10 women together at once every month due to time restrictions.
- Don’t feel guilty if you have to work to provide a home for your children, they don’t need to see you every moment. It builds character for children to be around others & not just family.
- Treat yourself to something you enjoy at least once a month & budget accordingly: a pedicure, a movie, shopping at consignment stores or take a book & sit outside a coffee shop for alone time.
How to Make Child Rearing Easier:
- Give your children chores ~ do not take it all on yourself. Even at the age of two, they like to feel needed by helping mom. (Don’t be a martyr by taking it all on & then complaining!)
- ASK for help from family or some of Vancouver's mother’s groups. (This is especially important for single mothers.)
- Babysitting: Find someone who has children that you can exchange weekends or evenings with so you can have time with your spouse/partner.
- Hire a highschool student to assist with homework occasionally; it will be well worth the hourly wage every few weeks.
- Ask your partner for assistance; do not nag about what they “don’t do.”
- Allow your children “one” sport/activity per season. Running yourself ragged trying to be everywhere does not actually give you quality time with them.
- Give your children 2 choices with clothing/homework, weekend activities etc. They like to think that they are making the decision once in awhile. (The two choices are made by you but they will be happy that they had some say in the decision.)
- Do not allow your children to ever backtalk, swear at you or talk down to you. They learn how to manipulate their parents by a very early age which is a difficult behaviour to reverse.
Making Time For Love & Your Relationship
Do not put your spouse last; always have a date night planned once a week. Keep a calendar that the whole family can see, so everyone is on the same page with what the weekly schedule holds. If you have to travel for work, try to leave enough space between days gone & days home so you can re-connect with your spouse & children. (Two days feels like eternity to them!) Always make an effort to look good for yourself & for your partner. Becoming complacent in your appearance can be a determent to your marriage down the road. It doesn't take more than 15 minutes to "freshen up" your sexiness. Never put your partner last on the priority list. Remind yourself daily that you would not be blessed with a family if the two of you hadn’t met & fell in love. The biggest regret couples have as their children grow up, is forgetting how to love each other.
Susan McCord @ http://www.youtube.com/twobeavers
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