Sometimes we can see in others what we can’t see in ourselves. We are instructed to avoid being judgmental but judgment may be our guide into the unknown of our psyches. It points to the very thing that we need to pay attention to for our own development.
If we criticize someone for being over-weight, it may be because we’re feeling uneasy about your own weight. If we don’t like someone’s attitude, it may be because our own attitude needs fixing.
Judgment is an arrow to the heart of neurosis. It’s a mirror to who we are. It reflects an image that allows us to see ourselves more clearly. We are all full of negative emotions like anger, greed and jealousy. We are exhibiting the traits that make us human, not perfect or God-like. This is the stuff that life is made of; the stuff that builds egos and tears them down. It’s the badge of imperfection we should wear gladly as it authenticates our humanness and keeps us from imagining we are better that that.
We need to exercise more observation, more scrutiny bring more attention to the scene of the judgment that may pass through our consciousness so quickly and quietly that it could go unnoticed by the untrained adept. But for people who are paying attention, waiting for signals and impulses on which way to move and the path to the evolution of consciousness, judgment immediately raises a red flag. It’s like a flare going off saying, “Hey, over here, there’s something you need to work on.”
Judgment isn’t necessarily bad, it just is. It filters into human interaction almost unnoticed. It springs up in a moment and then it’s gone. We may think we are glad to get rid of the thought but we may have missed an opportunity to learn something that may actually be useful; something about ourselves. We are so intent on learning facts and data, while ignoring the most important thoughts about ourselves.
When we find ourselves seeking judgment, it is ourselves that we seek. We are looking for perfection in others that doesn’t exist but we are really looking for perfection in ourselves.
What a mighty act to pass judgment on another human being. It seems almost God-like. It begs the question, “Who am I to judge” and who is it that is passing judgment?
There seems to be some sort of solidity in judgment. It seems solid in a world of impermanence. It’s an anchor for the ego and says more about the one judging than the judged.
We criticize the imperfections of others, while we escape criticism of ourselves; our own self-examination. But judgment and criticism refer back to the mind that created it. The road to our own awakening runs through the judgment of others. Bathing in our own imperfections, how can we make an accurate judgment of another? The righteousness that leads us to judge blinds the eye from seeing the imperfection it came from. So we solidify our position and rest in the comfort of our judgment and can avoid acceptance of imperfection.
The goal of consciousness is not perfection but the acceptance of imperfection. Judgment is the mind’s own disease. It festers in its own comparison and gives weight where there is none. “Do not judge lest ye be judged.” The mind is our castle. Fortify it with acceptance and it will stand forever.