I have been a parenting expert now for over 25 years, and the “sex talk” is probably one of the most uncomfortable experiences a parent can have. Most parents are usually caught off guard the first time their child asks about the birds and the bees. I was the perfect example, as my daughter was only five years old when she asked me that question in the carpool lane! I thought it would be at least ten more years before we'd have this conversation, but somehow I managed to get through it fine and all went smoothly.
Most parents want to do their best in talking with their kids about sexuality, but they're often not sure how to begin. Welcome your child's questions by sending a clear signal that you are willing to talk -- "I'm really glad you asked me that," or "What a great question."This allows him or her know that you are comfortable with the subject.
Studies show that kids who feel they can talk with their parents are less likely to engage in high-risk behavior as teens. Teaching your children about sex, demands a gentle, continuous flow of information in response to questions that come up. It's best to give simple, honest answers.
When explaining, always use the proper anatomical names for the body parts. Talk in a way that fits the age and stage of your child. Don't worry about knowing all the answers to your children's questions; what you know is a lot less important than how you respond.
If you can convey the message that no subject, including sex, is forbidden in your home, you'll be doing just fine. And fortunately, there a number of books available that can help you out, such as Where Do Babies Come From? by Angela Royston and How Babies Are Made by Andrew Andry and Steven Schepp.
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