Is your man shy or just not interested

So you think you found a man worth your time but can't decide if he's a shy guy or if he is just not interested? After subtle glances, exchanges of smiles and an awkward gesture of interest, you decide to bite. So what's supposed to come next? He asks for your number, calls you for a date and the two of you are on your way to dating bliss. Right? Wrong. In this case, your guy moves deliberately slow, he doesn't ask for your number, yet engages in great casual conversation. He's bright, sexy and alluring but manages to stay delicately tinkering on the edge of disinterest.

Many women run into shy guys yet find it increasingly hard to decipher he's genuinely bashful or if he's just being polite by not leading you on, or worse is he leading you on until something better comes along. Deciding on weather to stay and wait for him to thaw out and get comfortable or whether to bail for someone more forthcoming is the dance women can get lost in for months. Well, rest your pretty little intuition and look for these clear cut signs to tell if you have a shy guy or if he is just not interested.
Shy guys are usually aware of their condition and would likely mention this upfront to avoid messing up their chances to be with you. These men listen intently and show attention just to get the spot light away from them. Shyness is a condition of not feeling comfortable being on display. So take your shy guy to a secluded area and see if his comfort level rises. You should be able to engage in conversation, ask questions and get him to open up. He may not know what to say on his own, but once you initiate and show genuine interest this will make your shy guy feel wanted and appreciated. In time he will show you the depth of his feelings that he keeps hidden for that special someone.

A major sign the guy is not interested is that he will want to remain intensely casual. He may claim to be shy, but his personality when around his buddies or co-workers may tell a different story. Observe him in his natural habitat; listen to how he expresses himself. Is he candid, opinionated, loud? Does he seem comfortable around others but when it comes to you he's quiet? It could be that you two have nothing in common so there's not very much to talk about, yet he's keeping you around as a place warmer. The best way to get to the bottom of his behavior is to ask him directly. Say something like: Do you see us growing as a couple? Do you think a relationship would work with us? If he is not interested, the response will be anything but affirmative. Even the infamous "I don't know" response should be cause for concern. If you like him, don't leave him, but just be aware that he may be setting you up for a friend with benefits situation.

Dating shy guys can be sexy and fun. Sometimes they turn out to be a sweet surprise for the woman who takes her time to get to know and understand his wants and needs. But when a guy is not interested, he will let you know indirectly or directly. Either way, you have to be willing to communicate and be clear with your intentions. Remember, men will always tell you who they are upfront. All women have to do, is listen