When "ignoring" doesn't work...
If a child is being bullied at school. It is pertinent that they understand that it is not their fault that someone does not know them enough to like them. They need to understand that they don't have to be "liked" to be respected. Teaching children social skills is very important, however, even children without problems socially may face bullying. Sometimes students don't know where they fit in life and so they feel awkward and left out. It's important that every student know what they are good at to help them develop emotionally, mentally and in some cases where activity is involved, physically, the social side will soon come with like minded individuals who enjoy the same things.
If a student does not find their 'niche' in sports, theater or debate clubs, they should give self defense classes a try. They are great, they teach self-control, confidence and of course how to protect oneself.
In cases where children are having a hard time adjusting in school, it's important to communicate to them that you care about their issues; no matter how big or small the problems are. Children who are mild mannered or well behaved may become targets just for that reason. It could stem from other children being jealous or their lack of home training. The bullies have insecurities in their own home lives and have to take it out of others. These bullies grow up to be adults who have the same attitude and make the lives of their co-workers, spouse and neighbors a living hell. Their problems can range from lack of nurturing, witnessing abuse, being abused, drug's and a plethora of other issues.
If you suspect that your child is being bullied, try these tips.
1) Call a meeting with the school Principal to discuss the consequences in place regarding bullying. If there are none, suggest they develop some. Request that appropriate measures be taken for students who harass other students. More than just separating the two. Ranging from a warning, to detention, to suspension and so on. Set up a meeting for follow up. In the mean time, allow the Principal to meet with the students and dtich out whatever consequence he/she see's fit.
2) If the bullying has not improved, set up a meeting with the parents of the bully in a neutral location, like the school or a restaurant, invite the children. This meeting should show the children how to resolve their differences. Be an example. Let the parents know your concerns, and be ready to listen. Being positive and optimistic during this meeting will be helpful for everyone.
3) If this meeting is not successful and the bullying continues, please contact your local Police Department and file a report regarding the harassment that is going on.
Bullying is a serious matter. Students have committed murder and suicide, because of how their peers have viewed them. Let your children know their worth is not found in what others think of them, it only matters that God loves them first and you second. All the while, use the sources provided to you to ensure that they know how to stand up for what is right and let justice prevail.
Other articles to read: It's My Life, Friends and Bullies, Truant to Avoid Bullies, No One Likes a Bully.
For more info: If you or someone you know in the Huntsville, Alabama area needs help please visit, Family Services Center, 600 St. Claire Ave., Huntsville, AL. phone (256) 551-1610. To report child abuse, sexual abuse or neglect please contact Department of Human Resources (256) 535-4500 , Huntsville Police Department (256) 722-7100. Crisis Services of North Alabama.