"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been perfect in Love." 1 John 4:18 "But God has not given us a spirit of fear, but power and of love and of a sound mind. " 2 Timothy 1:7.
Is it love, fear or jealousy when couples approach and avoid one another? Anger offensiveness entails approaching; and love can entail approaching too. The two motives share the same common response, with apparent variations in the conduct. Fear can motivate avoidance or escape. What about jealousy? Is jealousy an interaction between approach and avoidance? If so does jealousy contain love, anger or fear? A few may be under the erroneous belief that love, fear and anger emotions may serve as motives for each other.
In a June 2005 "Personal Relationship" journal article titled "Romantic jealousy: Emotions and communicative responses" authors Laura K. Guerrero, Melanie R. Trost, and Stephen M. Yoshimura reported that the experience of jealousy contains fear and anger- while aggressive communication in response to jealousy is related to hostility, low guilt, and "passion".
Passion is also defined as infatuation. And the erroneous belief of love and jealousy may be about passion and jealousy. Fear emotion in jealousy, being related to threat and anxiety, may be the lesser emotion of anger. And the above mentioned erroneous belief may be reinforced when fear, anxiety, jealousy, sadness and hurt may result in relationship satisfaction- as opposed to anger, conflict, and avoidance that may result in reduced satisfaction.
In a September 2004 "Personal Relationship" article titled " When is negative emotion positive for relationships? An investigation of married couples and roommates" authors Keith Sanford and Wade C. Rowatt reported that anger, sadness, and fear are interrelated in increasing one another. Sadness and fear (related to anxiety) were related to high relationship satisfaction, reduced conflict, reduced avoidance and positive relationship functioning; anger related to low relationship satisfaction, increased conflict, and increased avoidance and negative relationship functioning.
Misconstrued as love, the fear aspect of jealousy in a satisfying infatuation may reinforce the approaching, staying in the relationship, while the anger aspect reduces satisfaction, increases avoidance - exiting. The paradox is in the interaction between approach and avoidance, uncertainty, may be ambivalence, affecting beliefs and perceptions about love on the on hand and anger and jealousy emotions on the other.